We went to a predecree hearing at the end of March. He basically stated in his declaration that it was my fault that the kids don't want to talk or see him; he stated that I am alienating his children from him and that is a form of abuse; and that the ONLY way to prove he is a good father and that I'm alienating the children from him is to have a custody evaluator.
In my response, I provided proof that everything he stated was bullshit. I stated that if the court felt that they needed a custody evaluator to make a sound decision, I would agree to it. So we negotiated in the hall and did not go before a judge.
But before leaving, the judge called both our attorneys in and stated that she wanted the name of our custody evaluator within 2 weeks (this Wednesday). So we signed the custody evaluator agreement.
Now, he changes his mind??? He makes all these bullshit allegations and then when it comes time to show proof, he fucking changes his mind? He says he doesn't want to pay the thousands of dollars. He also got a new attorney apparently. Idiot.
I don't think we can just change our minds on something like a custody evaluator, can we? Especially if the judge wants it?
I don't care either way but if he can change his mind, then I want him to give me full physical and legal custody and admit he is a fuckhead, oops, I meant I want him to admit that he lied in his affidavit. 
What would you do? Has this happened to you? Are we allowed to change our minds if a judge specifically asks for something?
Thank you!!
eta: typos and thank you!!
[This message edited by dmari at 8:05 PM, April 7th (Sunday)]
