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Having inspection issues on the home that I am selling. I am so pissed. Every day working I get up early to have home " show ready", each day off is full of appointments. WH gets 50 percent of proceeds. I am doing 100 percent of the work.....I am so bitter I can't stand myself.

So I spent 3600 to fix a wet crawl space, inspection after the fact reveals water! WH told me for all 12 years in this house that water in crawl was normal!!!!! Not!!!! I feel like I am the only one picking up the shattered pieces of kids, home, finances. Thanks for listening, no one else gets it but you.

Document every cent you put in the house and get it from the proceeds. I would also be hiring someone to clean. If he isn't helping, then you need help. And yes, subtract that also!

Ditto what million pieces said! Hang in there- you're almost done!!!

oh TB, hope today is better. Getting "through" this shit is hard. Once it is behind you it will be better!

It sucks...doesn't it?? So sorry you are going through this. I am right there with you! I am in the process of selling my house as well and doing all of the work on my own. But, really, I did all the work on the house pretty much the entire time we were married anyway. The only thing my STBXH did was cut the grass!

So here is what I do to help me get through it.......I pretend he is DEAD!!!! It helps in more ways than one!!!

I hope it gets better for you.

Definitely track your expenses. They need to be reimbursed out of proceeds BEFORE it is split.

I know exactly how you feel. My XWH did NOTHING. If it were up to him, the house would have went into foreclosure. I had to make sure the bills were payed, get the house up for sale, clean it, make little repairs, show it every time someone wanted to see it and I wasn't even living there for the last 6 months!!! The house sold and he got the rewards plus his wonderful new life with all his hoe bags.

Eventually the karma bus will run them over....

So I worked out the water issue today, have to do more work, but the contract on the house is firm, and will be moving in three weeks. I know that once I get out of the house we built, and start my new life, I will feel a sense of relief and empowerment. It just sux to think that I have all of this hanging over me, and he just spent the week with his GF having a vacation and attended the country music awards. I am packing up boxes and keeping it together for my kids. Thank you for being out there for me.....

Maybe you should (for sure) track whatever $$$ you spent to make the repairs. That should be split 50/50, for sure.

I think I'd keep track of my hours spent too. Your time is worth something. Try to get even more $$$ for that. It might not work, but if you don't ask, you'll never get it, for sure.

And....FTG!