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User Topic: Śo worried.....and pissed
♀ 21590
Member # 21590
Default  Posted: 10:41 PM, April 7th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Having inspection issues on the home that I am selling. I am so pissed. Every day working I get up early to have home " show ready", each day off is full of appointments. WH gets 50 percent of proceeds. I am doing 100 percent of the work.....I am so bitter I can't stand myself.

So I spent 3600 to fix a wet crawl space, inspection after the fact reveals water! WH told me for all 12 years in this house that water in crawl was normal!!!!! Not!!!! I feel like I am the only one picking up the shattered pieces of kids, home, finances. Thanks for listening, no one else gets it but you.

How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time......

Posts: 151 | Registered: Nov 2008 | From: Southeastern US
million pieces
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Default  Posted: 6:52 AM, April 8th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Document every cent you put in the house and get it from the proceeds. I would also be hiring someone to clean. If he isn't helping, then you need help. And yes, subtract that also!

Me - 45
2 kids, 12 and 15
D-Day 2/5/10, separated 3 wks later
Divorced 11/15/11!!!!

Posts: 1689 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: MD
♀ 37946
Member # 37946
Default  Posted: 10:50 AM, April 8th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ditto what million pieces said! Hang in there- you're almost done!!!

Me (BS)- 36
Just keep swimming, just keep swimming- Dorie

Posts: 293 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Southeastern U.S.
♀ 30341
Member # 30341
Default  Posted: 11:06 AM, April 8th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

oh TB, hope today is better. Getting "through" this shit is hard. Once it is behind you it will be better!

DDay 11/17/2010 BW:54

Posts: 4137 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
♀ 21634
Member # 21634
Default  Posted: 11:46 AM, April 8th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It sucks...doesn't it?? So sorry you are going through this. I am right there with you! I am in the process of selling my house as well and doing all of the work on my own. But, really, I did all the work on the house pretty much the entire time we were married anyway. The only thing my STBXH did was cut the grass!

So here is what I do to help me get through it.......I pretend he is DEAD!!!! It helps in more ways than one!!!

I hope it gets better for you.

BS - ME 43
WH 44
Married 20 years
DDay #1 12/28/07
DDay #2 9/18/08
DDay #3 12/28/08
Dday #4 11/18/10 (same OW)
Dday #5 8/22/12 (same OW)
2 beautiful daughters
"Love grows where it is nurtured and dies where it is not!"

Posts: 841 | Registered: Nov 2008 | From: NJ
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Default  Posted: 12:00 PM, April 8th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Definitely track your expenses. They need to be reimbursed out of proceeds BEFORE it is split.

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

Posts: 40250 | Registered: Aug 2011
♀ 36784
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Default  Posted: 2:07 PM, April 8th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I know exactly how you feel. My XWH did NOTHING. If it were up to him, the house would have went into foreclosure. I had to make sure the bills were payed, get the house up for sale, clean it, make little repairs, show it every time someone wanted to see it and I wasn't even living there for the last 6 months!!! The house sold and he got the rewards plus his wonderful new life with all his hoe bags.

Eventually the karma bus will run them over....

Divorced Jan 2013

"Don't look back, the road is long."
- Needtobreathe

Posts: 210 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: IL
♀ 21590
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Default  Posted: 4:55 PM, April 8th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So I worked out the water issue today, have to do more work, but the contract on the house is firm, and will be moving in three weeks. I know that once I get out of the house we built, and start my new life, I will feel a sense of relief and empowerment. It just sux to think that I have all of this hanging over me, and he just spent the week with his GF having a vacation and attended the country music awards. I am packing up boxes and keeping it together for my kids. Thank you for being out there for me.....

How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time......

Posts: 151 | Registered: Nov 2008 | From: Southeastern US
exhausted lady
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Default  Posted: 12:11 AM, April 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Maybe you should (for sure) track whatever $$$ you spent to make the repairs. That should be split 50/50, for sure.

I think I'd keep track of my hours spent too. Your time is worth something. Try to get even more $$$ for that. It might not work, but if you don't ask, you'll never get it, for sure.


Sometimes the hardest part of finally seeing through someone is accepting what you see...

God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to
change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me.
-Reinhold Neibuhr

Posts: 3171 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: Colorado
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