Theres a saying around here - broken attracts broken.
I too used to believe the best way to get over someone was to get under someone else.
Worked in my 20s - not so much in my late 30s. Its a lot more complicated now.
By all means get out and meet people but don't go looking for someone to 'fix' this for you. It will be a bandaid on a gaping wound.
Focus on YOU and your life. I'm well over monster but I'm not over my M and the hideous way it ended and the way it is being ground into dust.
Bringing someone else and their lives into this already complicated situation just does not appeal to me at all.
I was a hot mess at 3m out and the guys were circling like sharks like they could smell the blood in the water. I don't want a guy like that - I want someone who wants me whole, unbroken.
Save yourself - the impact will last a lifetime. Having someone else save you will only last a short while. You'll have to heal to get through this properly - its up to you whether that happens now or whether you waste another 10 years circling around douchebagville.
I have no desire to visit again - once was enough for me.