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User Topic: Feels worse than D Day
twiceburned
♀ 21590
Member # 21590
Default  Posted: 11:23 PM, April 7th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Selling the house I raised our kids in. Tonight is hard.....I feel as though I have no one to turn to in my immediate world, so I turn to strangers yet friends......who get it. Just need a little "atta girl" to get me thru.


How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time......

Posts: 151 | Registered: Nov 2008 | From: Southeastern US
disillusioned12
♀ 37542
Member # 37542
Default  Posted: 1:35 AM, April 8th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((twiceburned)))


BS (Me)
WS (STBXH)
Married 2 yrs; Together 6 yrs

D-Day 11/14/12
EA(PA?)
Limbo 1 month
False R 2 months.
Status: Divorce on hold


Posts: 228 | Registered: Nov 2012
exhausted lady
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Member # 30217
Default  Posted: 2:03 AM, April 8th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((twiceburned)))

You can do this. It really, really IS going to get better.


Sometimes the hardest part of finally seeing through someone is accepting what you see...

God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to
change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me.
-Reinhold Neibuhr


Posts: 3168 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: Colorado
CheaterMagnet
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Member # 33581
Default  Posted: 2:24 AM, April 8th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Attagirl!!

I promise. It does get better. You CAN do this!


If Happy Ever After did exist, I would still be holding you like this.
All those fairly tales are full of shit.
One more fucking love song I'll be sick. ~ Maroon 5

Posts: 1053 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Kailua-Kona, HI
Survivor3512
♀ 37946
Member # 37946
Default  Posted: 6:48 AM, April 8th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Attagirl! You can do this. And it does get better. You will feel a sense of relief once you are settled in your new home. This is a good thing. Remember, it gets you one step further away from the past and one step closer to peace, joy, and happiness. Hang in there!!!


Me (BS)- 36
Divorced
----------------------------------------------------------
Just keep swimming, just keep swimming- Dorie

Posts: 293 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Southeastern U.S.
million pieces
♀ 27539
Member # 27539
Default  Posted: 6:50 AM, April 8th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((hugs))


Me - 42
2 kids, 9 and 12
D-Day 2/5/10, separated 3 wks later
Divorced 11/15/11!!!!

Posts: 1280 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: MD
Sunnie
♀ 33406
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Default  Posted: 7:18 AM, April 8th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

hugs twiceburned. Stay strong! Change is hard but it will be worth it!


Me: BS (32)
Together: 14 years
DDay: May 18, 2011
Separation date: November 18, 2012

Posts: 73 | Registered: Sep 2011
EvenKeel
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Default  Posted: 7:34 AM, April 8th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Selling the house I raised our kids in.

You are selling the house, but not the memories you made there. You will have them forever & ever.

It helps me sometimes to think of these changes as an ending to a chapter in your life....but you have many more cool chapters to go!


Eyes are useless if the mind is blind.


Posts: 2249 | Registered: May 2009 | From: Pa
LadyQ
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Default  Posted: 8:34 AM, April 8th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What EvenKeel said. The memories are yours to keep. The house is sticks and stones...


Tune out the noise of what others tell you about who you are and work it out for yourself...

Posts: 1650 | Registered: Jul 2011
dlmos
♂ 36839
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Default  Posted: 10:37 AM, April 8th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Twiceburned))))


BH (32)
DS - 7, DD - 6
Divorced

Posts: 461 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Fort Worth,Texas
Newlease
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Default  Posted: 4:46 PM, April 8th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I felt the same way when my home sold. It was rough, but it did get better. It is so much easier to move on without all the ghosts.

You got this!

NL


Even if you can't control the world around you, you are still the master of your own soul.

Posts: 7789 | Registered: Aug 2005
twiceburned
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Default  Posted: 4:49 PM, April 8th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you one and all. I forgot how much support and love I gleamed from this site right after D day, so glad I came back around. Today is a better day, packed more boxes, and also doing some change of address stuff, it felt good to have a date to forward the mail, and I know that once I get past the move, life will become simpler. I have to find a way to let go of the bitterness. I thought I had, but it rears its ugly head during stressful times.


How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time......

Posts: 151 | Registered: Nov 2008 | From: Southeastern US
hurtinky
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Default  Posted: 3:29 AM, April 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Been there, done that. The saddest moment of my life was sitting on the porch the night before I closed. My kids were grown and gone. It felt like everyone just got up and left, like I was the last person standing.

But, it turned out to be the best thing I ever did.

The kids were proud of me. They love my new home.

It's gonna be ok.


Me --> BS
D-Day 10-1988
D-Day 9-12-2005
S 9-13-2005
D 3-6-12



Posts: 1500 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: Kentucky
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 5:01 AM, April 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It is hard, twiceburned. There are so many memories and emotions that swirl during this process of selling the house. It hit me hard last summer.

Make sure you honor those feelings as they arise. Allow yourself to mourn the closing of that chapter so you can walk forward from that past into your future.

(((((twiceburned)))))


You can call me NIK

"Keep your face always toward the sunshine - and shadows will fall behind you."
-Walt Whitman


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