I generally get affected when a person I am dealing with is not in a good mood/not well. I somehow make it my responsibility to make things all right. This is one of the reasons which led up to As.
Now I AM responsible for CL’s current mood. And his mood swings affect me very much. I get it by being upset bcz he is upset doesn’t help him. Most of the times he wants me to leave him alone when he is angry and I have started doing that (which is VERY difficult for me).
In IC we discussed this and she walked me through some thought processes and asked how do I help the other person by being miserable myself. It all makes sense. But its very hard to implement.
After having few rough days, we ended up having a nice weekend. And again yesterday night CL’s mood went off. Now I am sitting in office wondering what I can do make him feel better. My work is getting piled up and I m not able to concentrate. I know I am not helping in any way just by thinking about him. But i should focus on work. But I want him to feel better somehow and I cant take my mid off this thought.
I guess I need an action plan. I am so clueless how to handle this.
[This message edited by EmotionalFool at 8:49 AM, April 8th (Monday)]