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my wedding antiversary is today

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 better4me (original poster member #30341) posted at 5:19 PM on Monday, April 8th, 2013

...and although I am better than I was on the first or second antiversary, this third one still sucks donkey balls. Will be happier when it is April 9th!

DDay 11/17/2010 BW:58
Happily remarried!

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permanentpain ( member #38312) posted at 5:21 PM on Monday, April 8th, 2013

((better4me))

Be extra nice to yourself today.

Me: 32 y/o, student and mom of two of the best kids in the world
Him: 33 y/o scumbag
Divorcing
Feels good to start laughing and feeling better again...

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persevere ( member #31468) posted at 6:01 PM on Monday, April 8th, 2013

((b4m)) In the end, it's just another day. At least that's what I will be telling myself when I hit my 2nd next week.((Hugs))

DDay:2011
Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.

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FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 6:03 PM on Monday, April 8th, 2013

((((Better)))))

DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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cmego ( member #30346) posted at 6:35 PM on Monday, April 8th, 2013

((better)) Each year it becomes easier.

me...BS, 46 years old.
Divorced

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jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 6:53 PM on Monday, April 8th, 2013

(((better)))

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Housefulloflove ( member #38458) posted at 8:38 PM on Monday, April 8th, 2013

(((Hugs)) Today is my antiversary as well. It's my first since DDay. It also would have been my 10th anniversary. It sucks that what should have been a happy milestone turned into...this.

Me-29 Starting over
ExWH-29 Probable NPD, PA, manchild
3 beautiful young children
DDay 1/20/13 Admits PA
No remorse so NO R. DIVORCED! 9/2013

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Happydays ( member #38681) posted at 9:34 PM on Monday, April 8th, 2013

Mine went by last month.

It was just another happy day that went by. Just a reassurance of my healing status.

BH 33
FWW 32
DS: 3 year old.
Dday 10/14/2012
No remorse so:
Divorced 02/15/2013. No alimony, no CS, got apartment. Won all battles and mind games off the courts.

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 better4me (original poster member #30341) posted at 6:22 PM on Tuesday, April 9th, 2013

((housefulloflove)) ah we share the same antiversary date.

Thank you all for the virtual hugs. I find myself singing along with the radio today so I know I'm better. It does get easier. Time.

DDay 11/17/2010 BW:58
Happily remarried!

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EvenKeel ( member #24210) posted at 6:34 PM on Tuesday, April 9th, 2013

Mine was over the weekend and I felt nothing. Is that healthy?

In all fairness, I was SOOOO done by the time we ended it so maybe I had a jumpstart on healing.

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HappilyUnMarried ( member #21299) posted at 4:54 AM on Thursday, April 11th, 2013

(((B4M)))

It will stop being a big deal. In a few years you may even forget about it until after it passes! My anniversary was 4/8 as well. 22 years, it would have been. but I now look at 4/8 as "freedom day"... the day HappilyUnmarried (then (UnhappilyMarried) stopped being Ms. Doormat.

t/j side story (I forgot about this until now). I kicked him out for good on 4/7/07; the day before our 16th anniversary. It was Good Friday, the kids were out of school. He told me he wanted to go hiking with OW and her kids that day because he wanted to see if being with her and her kids all day would drive him crazy enough to stop loving her. He wanted my permission! Fuck that! I was a doormat for 4 months prior, where I would let him get away with such crap, and that was my last straw. I spent our anniversary packing his shit all up and putting it in boxes in the garage.

It was the best day of my life. I felt free. I reclaimed my house as my own. 4/8 Freedom Day :)

True happiness comes from within, not from someone else.  Don’t make the mistake of waiting on someone or something to come along and make you happy

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disillusioned12 ( member #37542) posted at 4:58 AM on Thursday, April 11th, 2013

I guess yesterday (4/9) was my antiversary of 2 years. It was rough.

(((better4me)))

BS (Me)
WS (H)
Married 5 yrs; Together 10 yrs

D-Day 11/14/12
EA(PA?)
Limbo 1 month
False R 2 months.
Status: Divorce on hold

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Got2GO ( member #26576) posted at 4:58 AM on Thursday, April 11th, 2013

Hey, I got one better! My anniversary is December 25th!

But it doesn't bother me anymore. I'm soooooo happy I got rid of that bum!

It will get better.

BS (me) 47
WS (him) 70
Together 7 1/2 years
married 6 years
no children together
Happily divorced 1/29/13!

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fadedrainbow ( member #9280) posted at 1:13 PM on Friday, April 12th, 2013

(((better4me))) chiming in a bit late here, mine is also the 8th, would have been 22 years. Each year gets easier.

me: FBW D-Day May 2005 divorced December 2009

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