ME - BS 34, HIM - WH 31
Prior to finding out about the OW, WH and I were making a plan to move back to my home state. I had already interviewed and pretty much landed a job when I found out and then the company had to postpone hiring. We moved to our current location 18 months ago and though I love my job here, when we moved here we left my family, whom I'm very close with, behind. Being away from my family, particularly my niece and nephew who are DD's age and her best friends, has been really hard. My niece is having medical issues and my sister is also divorcing so the pull to be with family during their hard times (as well as my own) is strong. To add to the stress, DD has never adjusted to the move...even at her young age, she still breaks down and cries once a week, wanting to move back to our "old home". So, this move is partially for me, but also, as WH and I have both agreed, in DD's best interest.
Add the A to the mix and I'm pretty much done here. We only moved here because WH got a job here (which he applied for, and interviewed for, without telling me, but that's about par for the course with him.)
I've interviewed for three jobs back in my home state, and things seem to be moving quickly, so my fingers are crossed. WH was and still is okay with moving, and is STILL okay with us leaving the state without him. He still thinks it's in DD's best interests (I have this in chat transcripts with date/time stamps should this ever be up for debate.) His plan is also to move back, so it's not like I would be taking her away from him out of spite -- the plan is that he would eventually move as well so we'd all still end up in the same state. Right now he doesn't have any job opportunities lined up. I wouldn't want to keep DD away from him -- He's a good and devoted father, just a crappy husband. (He also thinks once he finds a job he'll just move in with us and we'll be one big happy family, which makes me realize how little he understands the hell he's put me through.)
My question is -- should I be concerned about any legal issues once DD and I have moved, especially since he approves of the move? I don't expect him to be selfish and pull any kind of stunts to try to keep us here, but then I didn't expect him to be selfish and have an A, either.
Daughter age 6
Together since 2001
DD#1 2/23/13, online EA. Claimed NC but A continued until 3/20/13 when OW called it off. DD#2 4/4/13.
DD #3 9/21/13 2nd EA (with employee). He leaves.