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User Topic: Why I don't answer an online dating post
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Default  Posted: 6:24 AM, April 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Been on OLD on and off for a while. I had great conversations, had 3 first dates with great guys who unfortunately we didn't click that way but it was still very nice.

But yeah, I am one of those women who doesn't answer a message most of the time and I will say why.

- If the message is only "Hey" or what up
-If the guy sends me his phone number on the first message
-If the guy talks about sex in his profile or in the message
-If the guy's profile is angry towards his ex, women, or OLD in general
-If the guy's profile lists too many physical attributes they want in a woman (soccer mom by day, high heels and mini skirts at night)

The men who take the time to send me a complete sentence as a message and that it shows that they read my profile will get a response.

Me : BS - 40
Have a son (Romeo) - 14 years

Well this April's Fools Day joke sucked big time.

Posts: 11473 | Registered: Feb 2006 | From: ontario
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Default  Posted: 10:33 AM, April 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Those irritate me too. I also don't like the ones where they email you, but use text example is "how r u doin?" or if they send genitalia pics

A wise woman once said "fuck this shit" and she lived happily ever after.

If you want them to quit stabbing you in the back, then you need to quit handing them the knife.

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Default  Posted: 11:21 AM, April 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That makes perfect sense!

BS, 56 years
D-day 6-2-08
D after 20 years
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Default  Posted: 12:34 PM, April 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

or if they send genitalia pics

I would be frightened of a woman that would even respond to one of those!


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Default  Posted: 8:28 PM, April 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If they sent me genitalia pic...I would say something back they wouldn't like..

The first time I got one of those I immediately blocked the guy...And thought to myself and he was proud of that little thing...

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Default  Posted: 8:29 PM, April 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That is one of the many reasons I don't do OLD anymore or ever again....

Posts: 408 | Registered: Jan 2006 | From: The Tarheel State, in the mts.
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Default  Posted: 10:30 PM, April 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I did OLD on and off for 3 years. I got "better" at it towards the end, but I decided that attending events worked better for me (which is where I found my SO, the longest relationship I have had since D).

But I did have good luck on OLD as I became an OLD veteran (ugh, that sounds bad!). Some tips and tricks I learned along the way...

1. Put a profile out there that matches your personality; not what you "wish" you were. Those matches don't stick-- it's false advertising. State who you really are in your profile and you will more likely attract others who like "you". I went on many dates, in the beginning, where I didn't get a call back for a second date. Once I was "true to myself" in my profile, I attracted guys who were better matches.

2. I had much better luck on OK Cupid than anywhere else. The difference is the multiple-choice questions. I spent a lot of time answering those questions and reading the answers of potential matches. The more questions I answered, and the more I compared my answers with potential dates, the better the dates turned out.

3. I don't care how hot the guy is... If he sends you a message without even commenting about something in your profile, don't bother. Unless, of course, you are just looking for a fuck buddy. Because that's probably all he is going for... the superficial.

4. A first date should be an hour long, max. State this up front. This way you don't have to be committed if your date turns out to be a dud. After an hour you both will have made up your mind on whether there will be a second date.

5. This one was really hard for me... because I talk a lot when I am nervous. Listen. Ask questions. Collect data. Don't overshare. You will learn so much more about your date this way. If he doesn't ask you questions, that tells you a lot about this person... Self. Centered.

[This message edited by HappilyUnMarried at 10:34 PM, April 10th (Wednesday)]

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