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Newest Member: RisingAbovePain (61843)

User Topic: Finding a direction
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Happy  Posted: 9:32 PM, April 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've been debating over the last couple months what to do with some of my larger tools and other hobby stuff. While I'm living at the parents I only have a single closet and a desk, although I will be getting a couple bookshelves soon. Either way space is at a premium and while the X is fine storing anything I can't find room for I have decided to sell most of it.

I had a lot of plans for some of these things so this was not something I just made a snap decision on. I checked with the family members for anything they might want but on friday it's all going on ebay. While it was a hard decision I feel very liberated as well. While I focus on rebuilding I have found a few things I really enjoy doing and would rather persue those interests.

Another factor in this is I have decided that I will be moving into an apt and not a rent house once I've rebuilt financially so the tool would just sit in storage for years. I'm happy tonight, I feel like I've settled on a framework to rebuild. And the cash I will get will give me a nice bit of padding in the bank.

Direction is nice

BH (32)
DS - 7, DD - 6

Posts: 461 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Fort Worth,Texas
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Member # 33857
Default  Posted: 9:36 PM, April 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good for you friend...lots of interests/things change when you are single again.

I have been doing a lot of fishing lately and really am enjoying it!

Divorced by Interlocutory decree in May 2012. WW had an affair with a 66 yo doctor she worked for.
D-Day Sept 16. 2011.
BH- 54Me) / XWW 52
Two great kids that don't deserve this!

Posts: 734 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: Western Kentucky
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Default  Posted: 10:42 PM, April 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have to agree that downsizing during/after a divorce is the way to go.

Start anew... Everything fresh, different, no triggers.

That's what I will likely do after the settlement...

Me (BS): 55
Her (WW): 53
Married: Not any more
Children: Three of them
D-Day: 10/07/07; 12/15/12
Status: Trying to move on

Posts: 480 | Registered: Oct 2007 | From: USA
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Default  Posted: 10:09 AM, April 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Direction is nice

I couldn't agree more.

"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

Posts: 14452 | Registered: Jul 2011
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Default  Posted: 11:02 AM, April 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good for you! I LOVE the feeling that selling on ebay gives me. I like to pile everything I'm selling in a corner and watch it dwindle as my paypal account grows, lol.
I'm happy for you that you are making decisions and moving forward.

Me BS 47
Him WS 51
DDay LTA Feb 21, 2006
R until DDay 2EA's 1/31/12 ONS 2/5/12 Broken NC 7/12/12
Moved out 9/12
Legally Separated 3/13

Posts: 848 | Registered: Jul 2012
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Default  Posted: 11:44 AM, April 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Direction and a fresh start = exciting new adventure

So happy for you, dlmos!

Me: 32 y/o, student and mom of two of the best kids in the world
Him: 33 y/o scumbag
Feels good to start laughing and feeling better again...

Posts: 270 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Island
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Default  Posted: 11:49 AM, April 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's awesome.

I am struggling with what to do with some pretty substantial home office furniture my brother has been graciously storing for me. They are renovating soon and I'll have to move it and the place I'm in just doesn't have the room so I'm planning on hiring movers to take it into storage.

I'd like to keep it as it's really my own furniture left from our D that isn't tainted, yet I'm almost having a hard time justifying keeping it at all.'ve given me things to ponder.


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