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tabitha95 posted 4/10/2013 00:03 AM

My 42 year old neighbor who never married and has no children, had a stroke a couple months ago. As her mother was getting her house ready to come home to, her mother had a heart attack and is in the hosptial. My neighbor's brother, who has a heart condition and is partially blind is taking care of her since she came home Thursday. Another female neighbor and I offered to give her baths so to give dignity to the situation. She was crying in the shower saying tonight how she has no one but her brother.

I am reminded that this could be me now that I'm divorced. I will be there for her as much as I can. We are planning showers for every other day unless she needs one sooner.

I've also been taking her brother shopping since he can't drive.

I wish I could do more. I work 40 hours a week and have two boys.

Bluebird26 posted 4/10/2013 00:11 AM

I am sure your neighbour appreciates your kindness more than you know, you are doing a wonderful thing for and her family. Every little bit helps. But when you are sick it is a reminder that we are alone ((Tabitha))

tabitha95 posted 4/10/2013 00:27 AM

Thanks. I told her tonight that I feel guilty that we didn't know each other better before. The other neighbor said she never thought we'd all be showering together.

She can't use her right side. She is learning to use a walker.

Happydays posted 4/10/2013 00:49 AM

^^^^ wow you're such a wonderful person.
Kudos!

stillstrong posted 4/10/2013 10:15 AM

Thanks. I told her tonight that I feel guilty that we didn't know each other better before. The other neighbor said she never thought we'd all be showering together.

But see, now she's not alone. And neither are you. You have 2 neighbors you can call on, and a brother of a neighbor. Even if the stroke victim can't help you physically, she may have some valuable contacts you may need in the future. This isn't a reminder that you're alone, it was an opportunity to bring new people into your life. And helping others makes one happy.

TrustGone posted 4/10/2013 10:46 AM

You are a very sweet person for helping your neighbor and her brother. I also think about what I will do when I D WH#2. I have very little immediate family left and they live thousands of miles from me. My son is in the military and rarely calls me unless he needs something. My health is not good and the thought of being alone scares me to death, so I know what you mean about being alone. Hopefully if something ever happens your neighbors will also be there for you. As previously said look at it as an opportunity to meet new people. (((HUGS)))

nowiknow23 posted 4/10/2013 16:31 PM

But see, now she's not alone. And neither are you. You have 2 neighbors you can call on, and a brother of a neighbor. Even if the stroke victim can't help you physically, she may have some valuable contacts you may need in the future. This isn't a reminder that you're alone, it was an opportunity to bring new people into your life.

Spot on. ((((tabitha))))

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