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risingfromashes posted 4/10/2013 21:52 PM

After all he as done. The betrayal, lies, disregard, (I could go on forever) I have just learned that he has decided not to attend AA or SA but instead join a Co-Dependent support group. I do not even talk more than necessary to this ass!!@!

Why am I so angry?

How dare that ass&%$&????
I feel so enraged!

He pulled some asinine behavior last week that so bordered on reportable child abuse event that could have fried his ass.
Instead I told the 15 yo she did not have to see him. I checked it all out with her therapist who was also on the fence.

After all I have been thru

After all of this hell

He is the victim??????

It is always awful when my humor goes awol. :

betrayedfriend posted 4/10/2013 21:54 PM

he has decided not to attend AA or SA but instead join a Co-Dependent support group. I do not even talk more than necessary to this ass!!@!

This is not yours to own. He's not a co-dep. And don't you ever let him make you think that he's there because of you... couldn't be farther from the truth My gut feeling is this is a sympathy move but it most likely a veiled opportunity to get more victims. focus on your kids, and if an event is even borderline child abuse report it.

[This message edited by betrayedfriend at 9:56 PM, April 10th (Wednesday)]

risingfromashes posted 4/10/2013 22:05 PM

If I thought filing a report would benefit my children I would in a nanosecond. The ones living at home are 18 & 15. They dictate visitation. They decline.
He is not a co-dep!!!
This will give him skills to talk the good talk on e-harmony.
Thank you for your response.

ChoosingHope posted 4/10/2013 22:45 PM

Typical delusional NPD. These guys are ALL THE SAME.

It's outrageous. I'm not finding words that are strong enough to describe this type of delusional behavior. But I guess it's not REALLY your problem anymore???

If it makes you feel better, I'm sure that any success he finds on EHarmony will probably be short-lived!

And I wonder how long he'll be able to pretend he's a co-dependent in a group like that.

PurpleRose posted 4/10/2013 22:58 PM

The Dooosh rides the "co-dependent" victim train too. What is with these idiots?? They jump on anything to avoid taking any kind of fucking responsibility for the shit storm they hurled at their families. Damn, smh.

Nature_Girl posted 4/10/2013 23:10 PM

I recently found out that my STBX was receiving treatment some time back for co-dependency. Those of you who've been around a while will know how utterly outrageous this is. HE was and still is the abuser. *I* am the co-dep.

Of course it was a ploy to get sympathy. His very best most favorite role to play in life is the victim.

h0peless posted 4/10/2013 23:18 PM

My ex has played the victim card too. It actually gives me a good belly laugh. I love the absurd.