BBF-turned-BH: 28 (Me)
Am I wrong to want all the bad to be put in front of me to get it over with?
NO. Just remember this - YOU ARE NOT WRONG in wanting to know all the shit about the A.
You are just 3 weeks out and at this stage, your WH most probabaly does not realise how much damage his A wold have done to you and your family. He would want to rug-sweep and just move forward as if nothing happened. He will obviously tell you that he loves you now and he wants to be only with you.
You need to put your foot down. If you want to R, you need to tell him what you want from him - NC, full disclosure, the complete truth, him working on himself, supporting you through this trauma, honest communication going forward.
Full disclosure is a very important part according to me. You have a right to know who the hell you are have been staying with and whether you want to stay with such a person. 'It will hurt you' is bollocks and just protecting himself. Yuu get to decide what level of detail you need. 'I dont know' and 'I dont remember' is bull-shit. He knows but chooses not to share.
WGF-turned-WW: 28 (EmotionalFool)
POS1: a 'friend'? WW believed it was my 'best friend'!
POS2: her senior at work!
Together - 6 years
Married - 1.5 years
Don't know where we are headed..