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Titanium (original poster member #38866) posted at 12:24 AM on Tuesday, April 16th, 2013
http://clicks.aweber.com/y/ct/?l=AGjz6&m=JQjEi2cbVsZWqX&b=J4lE5F32P3AEAnq7ZhnFEA
BS me 50
Him "who gives a rat's"
1 beautiful DS
M 20 yr T 24
DD#1 Jan 12
DD#2 Aug 12 LTA/PA with pond scum
Divorced.. may 2014..... :))
Shoot me down but I wont fall.
I am Titanium
Tearsoflove ( member #8271) posted at 1:05 AM on Tuesday, April 16th, 2013
Good article. I think she explains well what we try to emphasize on SI every day.
"Just because I don't care doesn't mean I don't understand." ~Homer Simpson
CrappyLife ( member #37630) posted at 4:49 PM on Tuesday, April 16th, 2013
Nice article. Very similar to what is said and emphasized on SI each and every day.
A must for all BSs to read.
BBF-turned-BH: 28 (Me)
WGF-turned-WW: 28 (EmotionalFool)
POS1: a 'friend'? WW believed it was my 'best friend'!
POS2: her senior at work!
Together - 6 years
Married - 1.5 years
D-Day- 15/10/12
Don't know where we are headed..
broken313 ( member #39006) posted at 9:30 PM on Tuesday, April 16th, 2013
Thanks for this, this is a near perfect description of what i and those around me have said. My WS accepts it was his responsibility, but 2 weeks from dday i want to know all the hows and whys, the time for healing has me scared i wont have the energy as my whole world has just crashed.
Me 42
FWH 39
3 kids, 13,8,6
Dday 3/30/13
R- fragile
meplusfour ( member #38958) posted at 9:44 PM on Tuesday, April 16th, 2013
I really needed this today. Thank you for posting the link.
BW (me)42
WH 44
3 daughters, 1 son
Married 10 years, together 13
DDay 3/14/2013, four year PA
In R
"Sometimes you have to accept the fact that certain things will never go back to the way they used to be."
newnormal ( member #21925) posted at 9:56 PM on Tuesday, April 16th, 2013
the betrayed spouse struggles for ongoing years
This^^
If the ws doesnt quit blaming you and not take complete 100% ownership of the A, the bs, nor the marriage, will heal. I think that is why we get stuck in limbo.
And for JFO, give it 6 months, but if you are not seeing ownership, cut bait and move on.
BS 43 (me)
FWH 48
D-day 9/07
Dont retreat, reload.
"Pull that knife out of your back - and sever the fuel line to that bus you got thrown under" Bufffalo
Laura28 ( member #28997) posted at 10:14 PM on Tuesday, April 16th, 2013
Married 42yrs Me BW 68Yrs Him F?WH 70yrs OWzero 1988 EA?/PA? Gaslighted. Dday May 28 2010. OW1 1994(6mths PA, EA 16+ years). OW2 2002(8yrs PA). OW3 2009(1Yr PA). Others?? Status: Not Divorcing..but.."You can't unfuck 'em"
traveldad ( member #34047) posted at 5:50 AM on Wednesday, April 17th, 2013
That was so good to read. I'm one of those who had a wonderful marriage and family before the affair. One night after she had decided to leave, I reminded her of how infatuated she was with me 24 yrs earlier. She said that it was different, that when she met me, she know I would be a good husband and father and her exact words were "and you have been, but this is different." I did get her to admit she was just bad on about three different occasions though.
DDay January 2010
Divorced July 2010...broke up 2 families
Contented single dad of 2 grown sons and two daughters.
XW talks to kids about once a year
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