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Titanium posted 4/15/2013 18:24 PM

http://clicks.aweber.com/y/ct/?l=AGjz6&m=JQjEi2cbVsZWqX&b=J4lE5F32P3AEAnq7ZhnFEA

Tearsoflove posted 4/15/2013 19:05 PM

Good article. I think she explains well what we try to emphasize on SI every day.

CrappyLife posted 4/16/2013 10:49 AM

Nice article. Very similar to what is said and emphasized on SI each and every day.

A must for all BSs to read.

broken313 posted 4/16/2013 15:30 PM

Thanks for this, this is a near perfect description of what i and those around me have said. My WS accepts it was his responsibility, but 2 weeks from dday i want to know all the hows and whys, the time for healing has me scared i wont have the energy as my whole world has just crashed.

meplusfour posted 4/16/2013 15:44 PM

I really needed this today. Thank you for posting the link.

newnormal posted 4/16/2013 15:56 PM

the betrayed spouse struggles for ongoing years

This^^
If the ws doesnt quit blaming you and not take complete 100% ownership of the A, the bs, nor the marriage, will heal. I think that is why we get stuck in limbo.

And for JFO, give it 6 months, but if you are not seeing ownership, cut bait and move on.

Laura28 posted 4/16/2013 16:14 PM

Great!!!

traveldad posted 4/16/2013 23:50 PM

That was so good to read. I'm one of those who had a wonderful marriage and family before the affair. One night after she had decided to leave, I reminded her of how infatuated she was with me 24 yrs earlier. She said that it was different, that when she met me, she know I would be a good husband and father and her exact words were "and you have been, but this is different." I did get her to admit she was just bad on about three different occasions though.