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User Topic: Great newsletter read. Hope it helps
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Member # 38866
Default  Posted: 6:24 PM, April 15th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

BS me 50
Him "who gives a rat's"
1 beautiful DS
M 20 yr T 24
DD#1 Jan 12
DD#2 Aug 12 LTA/PA with pond scum
Divorced.. may 2014..... :))
Shoot me down but I wont fall.
I am Titanium

Posts: 101 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Australia
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Default  Posted: 7:05 PM, April 15th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good article. I think she explains well what we try to emphasize on SI every day.

"Just because I don't care doesn't mean I don't understand." ~Homer Simpson

Posts: 6064 | Registered: Sep 2005 | From: Southeast
♂ 37630
Member # 37630
Default  Posted: 10:49 AM, April 16th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nice article. Very similar to what is said and emphasized on SI each and every day.

A must for all BSs to read.

BBF-turned-BH: 28 (Me)
WGF-turned-WW: 28 (EmotionalFool)
POS1: a 'friend'? WW believed it was my 'best friend'!
POS2: her senior at work!
Together - 6 years
Married - 1.5 years
D-Day- 15/10/12

Don't know where we are headed..

Posts: 276 | Registered: Nov 2012
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Default  Posted: 3:30 PM, April 16th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for this, this is a near perfect description of what i and those around me have said. My WS accepts it was his responsibility, but 2 weeks from dday i want to know all the hows and whys, the time for healing has me scared i wont have the energy as my whole world has just crashed.

Me 42
FWH 39
3 kids, 13,8,6
Dday 3/30/13
R- fragile

Posts: 118 | Registered: Apr 2013
♀ 38958
Member # 38958
Default  Posted: 3:44 PM, April 16th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I really needed this today. Thank you for posting the link.

BW (me)42
WH 44
3 daughters, 1 son
Married 10 years, together 13
DDay 3/14/2013, four year PA
In R
"Sometimes you have to accept the fact that certain things will never go back to the way they used to be."

Posts: 438 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Canada
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Default  Posted: 3:56 PM, April 16th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

the betrayed spouse struggles for ongoing years

If the ws doesnt quit blaming you and not take complete 100% ownership of the A, the bs, nor the marriage, will heal. I think that is why we get stuck in limbo.

And for JFO, give it 6 months, but if you are not seeing ownership, cut bait and move on.

BS 43 (me)
FWH 48
D-day 9/07

Dont retreat, reload.
"Pull that knife out of your back - and sever the fuel line to that bus you got thrown under" Bufffalo

Posts: 1034 | Registered: Dec 2008
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Default  Posted: 4:14 PM, April 16th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Married 33yrs Me BW 59Yrs Him FWH 62yrs
OWzero 1988 EA?/PA? Gaslighted.
Dday May 28 2010.
OW1 1994(6mths PA, EA 16+ years).
OW2 2002(8yrs PA).
OW3 2009(1Yr PA).
Others???? Status: Not Divorcing..but.."You can't unfuck the goat"

Posts: 2772 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Australia
♂ 34047
Member # 34047
Default  Posted: 11:50 PM, April 16th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That was so good to read. I'm one of those who had a wonderful marriage and family before the affair. One night after she had decided to leave, I reminded her of how infatuated she was with me 24 yrs earlier. She said that it was different, that when she met me, she know I would be a good husband and father and her exact words were "and you have been, but this is different." I did get her to admit she was just bad on about three different occasions though.

DDay January 2010
Divorced July 2010...broke up 2 families
Contented single dad of 2 grown sons and two daughters.
XW talks to kids about once a year

Posts: 54 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: Southwest
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