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User Topic: Night terrors
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Member # 38604
Default  Posted: 6:42 AM, April 16th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Last night was horrid. Woke up twice yelling from a dead sleep from bad dreams. Dreams are always about being betrayed or abandoned by WH.

I have been diagnosed with PISD, on AD's in IC. I do have moments that I'm ok, I smile and have peace for a few hours. But it's always just a short while before I trigger and spiral down. WH is always asking what he can do, tries to help. Right now, I think I'm going through an anger stage. I want him to help, but I don't want him to help. He tells me that I'll never understand the remorse he feels, because it overwhelms him. Idk, maybe I need him to verbalize it more. Every day, sometimes every hour I want something different. But in the end, what I really want is to feel safe.

ME - BS 50, Him - WS 46 trying to "R"
4 DD's - blended 26,16, 15 and 12
Multi DDays the grand finale 5/13/2013
From here on out, I am only interested in what is real. Real people, real feelings, that's it, that's all I'm intere

Posts: 472 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Texas
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Member # 35812
Default  Posted: 1:23 PM, April 16th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I totally understand. I had nightmares for years. When I married my FWH, he woke me out of them for about 3-4 years, and it got to where he would sense me heading into one, would stroke me in my sleep, and I would never quite get into the nightmare. After DDay, the nightmares came back with a vengence.

I have to say that they are much lessoned. I still have an occasional one, but I found that the more trustworthy he acted and the more trust I started giving him because of that, the less and less the nightmares come. I look forward to a time when they are gone again. (((hugs)))

Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012

Posts: 5552 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
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Member # 31349
Default  Posted: 3:14 PM, April 16th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


"All the wars, all the hatred, all the ignorance in the world come out of being so invested in our opinions. And at bottom, those opinions are merely our efforts to escape the underlying uneasiness of being human. - Pema Chodron

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