Well...you aren't from TX because you didn't type out y'all...
Just a bit of advice, you should agree to all terms, but that they aren't term, they are what you need to do to save your M, if you BW is willing.
This is a great site. Huge support for WS's that is hard to find elsewhere, but a lot of the onus is going to be on you to do the work and follow through.
Read through the Healing Library, if you haven' already.
welcome to a place of healing.