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User Topic: hello All - first time I've felt I could post in "NB"
trebleclef
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Default  Posted: 12:17 AM, April 18th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well - I think I have officially "graduated" to this forum. Wasn't sure this day would EVER come! Still waiting for divorce to be finalized, but have finally moved out of the limbo I have been in my life for the last almost two years. Why now?

Went for supper with my Dad and brother tonight to celebrate the "sold" sign on a beautiful little one hundred and eight year-old house that my family has gone together to purchase for me! The reason behind it is that until the D is final, STBXWH could lay claim to anything I would buy, and I dont have money until the marital house sells, AND the bank wont lend me anything while im still officially married due to STBX's tax arrears. But after nearly two years of living in a freezing basement room in someone else's house, I will, in few days, have my very own, cozy, charmimg little cottage - that has been completely updated and remodeled in the last 6 years. When everything is settled, I will buy it back.

Please allow me to ...hmm... what's the opposite of VENT?
I cant tell people IRL here because I cant let STBX know about the house. But I'm SO excited - I have to tell SOMEBODY!

I have prayed and prayed that God would find me just the right house that he had in mind for me. This was the first one I looked at. TO my astonishment, my dad, who I had brought along for another opinion, offered to buy it. A few hours later the deal was done!
The owner had also been praying for the right buyer - I believe it was right in his timing. It is the PERFECT little cottage for me!

Tall mature trees all around. - I cannot live without trees.
Maintenance-free yard.
Everything that could be fixed and updated - plumbing, windows, roof, eaves, electrical, furnace etc etc etc, has been done.
There is an attic bedroom - my marital home that I designed had an attic room.
There is space for a window-seat - something Ive always wanted.
MY favorite color on the walls.
Room for my piano and my seamstress business.
Charming cozy warm cheerful kitchen.
And Lilacs! I have always loved lilacs. Tried to grow them everywhere we've ever lived, without success. Here there is a veritable tunnel of overhanging lilacs over the patio. As I prayed and thanked God for this beautiful place that i can finally call home, I felt like He said, "Trebleclef, 60 years ago when those lilacs were planted, I already knew that one day you would be here and would need them. I was thinking of you before you were born."

For the first time in over 700 days I am waking up thinking of landscaping and planning where to put things and how to decorate, instead of waking with that all too familiar lurch in my gut and battling painful thoughts and memories all day and night.

Thankyou God!
Thankyou Family!
Thankyou SI for getting me here to New Beginnings!



True remorse isn't followed by a "but".

Posts: 1809 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: Alberta
FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 12:20 AM, April 18th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17706 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
gma56
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Cool  Posted: 12:30 AM, April 18th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What a wonderful way to start !
God said double for your troubles! You are getting payed back Trebleclef !

Enjoy the process of moving to your new home !
Congrats ! That is about as cool as it gets !
Gma


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

Posts: 20387 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Closer to where I want to be..
CharlieFoxtrot
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Default  Posted: 12:42 AM, April 18th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is awesome!! I'm so happy for you


Weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning.

Posts: 505 | Registered: Jan 2013
wildbananas
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Default  Posted: 1:13 AM, April 18th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's wonderful, trebleclef!

Welcome to your NB.


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

Posts: 15435 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Now an AZ girl
gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 1:43 AM, April 18th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You play piano and you like lilacs. No wonder I like you so much!!

Have I mentioned lately that I think that it's AWESOME that you are getting out of that basement??!??

Does you stbx know about this? I'd imagine that this information is going to cause him to freak out....because how *dare* you actually have *decent* living accommodations!

Gosh, TC. I am so glad for you and happy to see you thinking about something other than *him*.


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


Posts: 8185 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
trebleclef
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Default  Posted: 1:58 AM, April 18th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No Gonna, that's why I'm jumping for joy here instead of in real life. I don't feel safe to let him to know until the divorce is final. And even then - it's none of his business. I'd probably feel better if he didn't know anything about where I am or what I'm doing - and the more people I tell here the more he is likely to know.

He's going to have enough on his plate trying to figure out where HE is going to live when the house we shared sells.

Apparently he's now broken up with MOW so I guess it won't be with her.

[This message edited by trebleclef at 1:59 AM, April 18th (Thursday)]


True remorse isn't followed by a "but".

Posts: 1809 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: Alberta
HappilyUnMarried
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Default  Posted: 2:57 AM, April 18th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So happy for you!!!! Welcome to your NB!


True happiness comes from within, not from someone else.† Donít make the mistake of waiting on someone or something to come along and make you happy

Posts: 1291 | Registered: Oct 2008
Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 5:53 AM, April 18th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

what's the opposite of VENT?

I believe you're looking for the term "squee". Let me to ahead and demonstrate for you:

Squeee!!! Treble clef this sounds amazing!!!!! What a perfect answer to prayer, and a perfect start to your new life.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

Posts: 13871 | Registered: Jul 2011
phmh
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Default  Posted: 6:02 AM, April 18th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So excited for you and congratulations!

You'll be officially divorced before you know it, and it will be easier to wait out that time in your wonderful new house.

Yay!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


Posts: 3483 | Registered: Dec 2011
Bluebird26
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Default  Posted: 6:16 AM, April 18th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yay, glad things are working out for you. Your cottage sounds divine, enjoy it.


"Loving someone should not mean losing you. Love empowers you. It shouldn't erase you. - Thelma Davis.

Posts: 1381 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 6:29 AM, April 18th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Great post! I'm so happy for you.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7820 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
SBB
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Default  Posted: 6:40 AM, April 18th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Squeeeeeee!!!!

I can feel your joy trebclef - thank you for sharing it with us!


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5658 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
gogirl
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Default  Posted: 7:40 AM, April 18th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congrats! It sounds so homey.


It's never too late to live happily ever after.


Posts: 572 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: North
stillstrong
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Default  Posted: 8:42 AM, April 18th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations trebleclef! That is wonderful news...and I'm happy to see that you've also moved here on SI to the NB forum.
It's amazing how He is working in your life, lining everything up just right for you to walk into your new beginning.


Me BS 47
Him WS 51
DDay LTA Feb 21, 2006
R until DDay 2EA's 1/31/12 ONS 2/5/12 Broken NC 7/12/12
Moved out 9/12
Legally Separated 3/13


Posts: 848 | Registered: Jul 2012
PurpleBlueBella
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Default  Posted: 9:34 AM, April 18th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow! Good for you! That sounds fabulous!!!!!!

Posts: 54 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: United States
dlmos
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Default  Posted: 9:58 AM, April 18th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So happy for you! Your family sounds like some real solid peope


BH (32)
DS - 7, DD - 6
Divorced

Posts: 461 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Fort Worth,Texas
sheila0304
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Default  Posted: 9:58 AM, April 18th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've been praying to feel more joyful and I feel it for you TC. Thanks for sharing your joy with us.

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SweetheartVixen
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Default  Posted: 10:07 AM, April 18th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How wonderful~! Congrats~! I hope to someday be in your position and have my own cozy little place. You make me look forward to my new beginning.


BS/60s WS/60s Divorcing and not soon enough~!
Its nice to be important, but its more important to be nice...

DD 6-14


Posts: 3104 | Registered: Jul 2004 | From: somewhere over the rainbow
trebleclef
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Default  Posted: 10:08 AM, April 18th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thankyou all for your warm welcome - I recognize many of you down here lol!!

Anybody know how to post pics?


True remorse isn't followed by a "but".

Posts: 1809 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: Alberta
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