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User Topic: 6 weeks from d Day and 3 days saying I'm done.
♀ 38787
Member # 38787
Default  Posted: 11:04 AM, April 18th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I told my WH on Monday that if he can come clean and telling everything and answer the questions that i want answers to or that I was done. By the end Of the day he realized I was serious and told me almost everything but why and how he could done. And why he would tell a hooker that he missed her. So he going to go to IC and he wishes that he could tell me but just doesn't know why. We live together but I told him I'm more like room mate then a couple. He understands what he has done but 5 weeks too late. I have move on from denial and crying for weeks to I have to protect my self from keep getting hurt and lied to. I just hope he can find the answer. We can fix us until he fixes himself.

Bw (me) 47
WH (him) 59
D day 3/7/2013
Married 26 together 28
2 adult sons 25 and 22

Posts: 167 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: nj
Getting to Happy
♀ 35200
Member # 35200
Default  Posted: 11:41 AM, April 18th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I can feel your pain. We were together for 34 years when I JFO.

This stuff will make your head spin all day.

Please be gentle with yourself.

It sounds like he and you are getting closer to finding the bottom of his nasty barrel of tricks. At lest you can have a real starting point to begin healing.


Take care my dear.


WS him
BS me DD's 26, 25' DS 23
dd1 1-1-10, dd2 Mothers Day 2011, dd3 3-12-12 Hawaii trip with ho-worker...

Never forget what is worth remembering or remember what is best forgotten.

Posts: 1254 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: La La Land
♀ 38787
Member # 38787
Default  Posted: 12:57 PM, April 18th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks. I gave him 5 weeks to stop with the TT but he decided not to so I had to move on from being hurt anymore.
I doing believe he really got it now. He is breaking down in tears over songs, thoughts and even looking at me.
He can't say he is sorry enough i think he says it every othe mintue and he realizes he can loss me.
We still live together due to financial reason from hurricane sandy so he has a chance to trying to r if he can come up with answers. He is starting IC. Hopefully he can find out why before it is too late.

Bw (me) 47
WH (him) 59
D day 3/7/2013
Married 26 together 28
2 adult sons 25 and 22

Posts: 167 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: nj
♀ 38928
Member # 38928
Default  Posted: 10:13 PM, April 18th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Believe it or not, I am actually envious of you 27yearsnowlost! At this point I would be glad to even get TT. Instead I get zip, nada, zilch. No ownership, no acknowledgement, no remorse, not even a "go to hell I am not telling you anything!" Nothing! I am no closer today about understanding "why" than I was when first D-day hit four years ago. It sucks! I wish the sleazy maggot would at least throw me a bone, give me SOMETHING. I have concluded that he is souless bastard that cares about no one and nothing except himself. After 21 days the miserable fuck stick finally sent our daughter a text message about how much he misses and loves her. Excuse me while I VOMIT! He only did that because I sent him a message and told him to get off his miserable ass and contact her as she did not deserve to be thrown to the curb regardless of his feelings for me.

Sorry, I'm in a foul mood at the moment...

I hope in your case he fixes himself to help fix your M, but if not, it sounds like you are ready to move on!

BS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - 2 adult DDs - DS20 Deceased
Happily divorced!

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Posts: 5099 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Land of Indifference
♀ 38787
Member # 38787
Default  Posted: 8:04 AM, April 19th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well he gave me no choice. He got my Irish up!!!!! He my be Italian but us Irish gals or quiet but push me enough I will snap.

He has realized what he had done to us. But can't tell me why. And why the dates that he chose which was a week before our yearly cruise (it was but since last march) I wanted to cancel due to the hurricane but he said we needed a break. Then the week we got home he did it AGAIN. That pissed me off!!!!! The whole time on the cruise he acted like he didn't have a care in the world.
I think that's why I snapped this soon.

He has been very nice he buy me a hallmark card almost everyday. He has sent me flowers even he know I think that they are a waste of money.

He does understand that I may have moved on by the time he figures it out.

He chose his path and made me go on it but I also have chose my own path, I have to protect myself from getting hurt again.

Bw (me) 47
WH (him) 59
D day 3/7/2013
Married 26 together 28
2 adult sons 25 and 22

Posts: 167 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: nj
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