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User Topic: Feeling crazy anxious
Crescita
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Default  Posted: 12:15 PM, April 18th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So many changes. They are supposed to be good changes. Just tell me everything is going to be okay.


“Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue.” ― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning

Posts: 3578 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: The Valley of the Sun
gahurts
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Default  Posted: 12:44 PM, April 18th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good changes can be unsettling too. The thing is that you know that in the end it will be better and worth it. Yes it WILL be OK.


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


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nutmegkitty
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Default  Posted: 2:03 PM, April 18th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think change is hard, even when it's for the good. Things will be ok. Believe that.


me (BS)
him (NPD Ex)
2 dds
DDay 10/7/11
OW
OC

Divorced 1/17/2013

"Diamonds aren't a girl's best friend, freedom is."


Posts: 2624 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: MA
Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 2:21 PM, April 18th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It'll be more than okay, it'll be awesome!! Even if the move is bumpy, even if the cats take a while to get used to each other, even if you find out that your SO secretly picks his nose in bed at night.... it'll be awesome.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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Helen of Troy
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Frustrated  Posted: 2:30 PM, April 18th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am right there with you.
Horribly anxious right now.

Changes stress me out.
Hindrance stress is supposed to be more anxiety causing than challenge stress.
Hmmph.


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Flythecoupe
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Default  Posted: 3:16 PM, April 18th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just relax and enjoy each day and learn something from each day. Everything WILL be ok, trust me/us.


Me: FBH 42
DS 17
DD 14
Dday 9-10-11 @ 2:08am
Divorced 9-27-12

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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 7:15 PM, April 18th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Stress is stress, whether it's good or bad. Deep breaths and try to have fun!


Hallelujah! Holy shit! Where's the tylenol?

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caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 7:52 PM, April 18th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It will be ok. Whatever it is, you will deal with it, it will end, and when it's over, it's over!!

(((hugs)))

anxious sucks.


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FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

Posts: 5947 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
Crescita
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Default  Posted: 3:19 PM, April 19th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah it's funny how anxiety feels the same no matter the cause.

My move-in with my SO coincides with d-day and my former anniversary with WXH, miserable coincidence. Also 3 other close people are moving on to better things as well. It's just so much at once.

I fear the anxiety is manifesting in ways it shouldn't. I'm being petty about stupid possessions; mentally divvying them up should things not work out. I’m sure many of you can relate that the little things just add up to so much when you start from scratch. Linens, kitchen gadgets, appliances, etc…All the duplicates are going to our sisters, when the duplicates are mine, panic sets in. Why not keep both? I think I'll start a small savings fund for all of the items and let them go in peace.

I’m sure I’ll feel so much better when it’s all sorted and the move is finished. Maybe I can leave a little more baggage behind too.


“Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue.” ― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning

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jennie160
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Default  Posted: 3:39 PM, April 19th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

All the duplicates are going to our sisters, when the duplicates are mine, panic sets in.

I can deficient relate with this. SO and I have been talking about me moving in with him and I keep looking at my stuff thinking "I don't need to take this with me but if I was ever single again I would probably want it." I plan to store some of the stuff at my parents until I'm more comfortable parting with it. But at the same time I feel stupid because I should have trust in the relationship.

The transitional stage is the worst but once everything is done it will be worth it.


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Crescita
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Default  Posted: 5:04 PM, April 19th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The transitional stage is the worst but once everything is done it will be worth it.

Yeah, and he is being so sweet about everything. He just bought new dishes and said he considered them "ours." The cutest, he has already started hanging both of our family photos up in his stair well. He's really finding some nice ways to make me feel more at home


“Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue.” ― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning

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