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Crescita posted 4/18/2013 12:15 PM

So many changes. They are supposed to be good changes. Just tell me everything is going to be okay.

gahurts posted 4/18/2013 12:44 PM

Good changes can be unsettling too. The thing is that you know that in the end it will be better and worth it. Yes it WILL be OK.

nutmegkitty posted 4/18/2013 14:03 PM

I think change is hard, even when it's for the good. Things will be ok. Believe that.

Amazonia posted 4/18/2013 14:21 PM

It'll be more than okay, it'll be awesome!! Even if the move is bumpy, even if the cats take a while to get used to each other, even if you find out that your SO secretly picks his nose in bed at night.... it'll be awesome.

Helen of Troy posted 4/18/2013 14:30 PM

I am right there with you.
Horribly anxious right now.

Changes stress me out.
Hindrance stress is supposed to be more anxiety causing than challenge stress.
Hmmph.

Flythecoupe posted 4/18/2013 15:16 PM

Just relax and enjoy each day and learn something from each day. Everything WILL be ok, trust me/us.

Sad in AZ posted 4/18/2013 19:15 PM

Stress is stress, whether it's good or bad. Deep breaths and try to have fun!

caregiver9000 posted 4/18/2013 19:52 PM

It will be ok. Whatever it is, you will deal with it, it will end, and when it's over, it's over!!

(((hugs)))

anxious sucks.

Crescita posted 4/19/2013 15:19 PM

Yeah it's funny how anxiety feels the same no matter the cause.

My move-in with my SO coincides with d-day and my former anniversary with WXH, miserable coincidence. Also 3 other close people are moving on to better things as well. It's just so much at once.

I fear the anxiety is manifesting in ways it shouldn't. I'm being petty about stupid possessions; mentally divvying them up should things not work out. Iím sure many of you can relate that the little things just add up to so much when you start from scratch. Linens, kitchen gadgets, appliances, etcÖAll the duplicates are going to our sisters, when the duplicates are mine, panic sets in. Why not keep both? I think I'll start a small savings fund for all of the items and let them go in peace.

Iím sure Iíll feel so much better when itís all sorted and the move is finished. Maybe I can leave a little more baggage behind too.

jennie160 posted 4/19/2013 15:39 PM

All the duplicates are going to our sisters, when the duplicates are mine, panic sets in.

I can deficient relate with this. SO and I have been talking about me moving in with him and I keep looking at my stuff thinking "I don't need to take this with me but if I was ever single again I would probably want it." I plan to store some of the stuff at my parents until I'm more comfortable parting with it. But at the same time I feel stupid because I should have trust in the relationship.

The transitional stage is the worst but once everything is done it will be worth it.

Crescita posted 4/19/2013 17:04 PM

The transitional stage is the worst but once everything is done it will be worth it.

Yeah, and he is being so sweet about everything. He just bought new dishes and said he considered them "ours." The cutest, he has already started hanging both of our family photos up in his stair well. He's really finding some nice ways to make me feel more at home

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