(Brief timetable review:
DDAY 12/2011. Hellish existence with blame-shifting spouse, crappy MC, ridin' the coaster until June, 2012 when she moved out. 180(ish) until early this year. We've been talking, slowly re-connecting these last few months.)
FWW is moving back home. I'm confident that her A was a one-off. She has dug into her "why," and recognizes it for the crap that it always was. She is seriously remorseful. The things that used to be triggers just don't have much power over me anymore. They catch my attention sometimes, but it's fleeting. I just don't have much need to process the A anymore. My focus is on the present, and shaping the future.
We both learned a lot from this experience. Seems like it's going to be a very different M. More baggage, but more wisdom.
I'm going to check out of this community for a while. I can't begin to express how much SI has done for me. Thank you all. Thank you, thank you, thank you. Best of luck to each and every one of you.