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betraydtwice posted 4/20/2013 10:46 AM

My H told me that 3mths after OW came into our lives he was ready to run away with her.

How do you be with someone for 22years, and they can decide to throw it all away in 3 mths time?

He says, "well I didn't do it, I changed my mind". Oh and that makes me feel so much better.

He says he did because when we first got together, I slept with someone else. We had only been together for about a month and at the time I didn't know the relationship was going to go for 20 years. Anyway I barely remember the night. It meant nothing to me and since then I have had many opportunities but have always been faithful.

I can't get it out of my head that he was ready to leave me. They planned and everything. How could someone throw away 22yrs so fast.

He says it was nice to have someone to listen to me, so I told him I would listen to you too, but you never talk to me, you know other than ordinary things. Not what is in his heart, so is it my fault you don't talk.

Imagine finding out that he has been holding a grudge with me for 22yrs and I knew nothing about it! Talk about holding things in...wow.
Makes me wonder what else he is hiding? If he could hide the grudge, and the A so well, what else is he hiding?

Maybe he has many secrets and I just don't know about them.
Look how sneaky he is. He talking with her about running away, and we go out and he buys me gold earrings. Why r u buying ME things when you want to run away with her? Makes me think, just how conniving are you. What other secrets is he hiding??

HeartInADustpan posted 4/20/2013 10:52 AM

My 2...

He says he did because when we first got together, I slept with someone else.

Total blame shifting. I can't stand the "Well, if you hadn't done ABC, I wouldn't have XYZ." argument. I don't think he's holding a grudge, I think it was a easy excuse to minimize what he had done.

My H told me that 3mths after OW came into our lives he was ready to run away with her.

He was in luuuvvvv. Complete brain chemistry playing tricks on him.

Hang in there.

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