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User Topic: Thanks to everyone
♀ 39046
Member # 39046
Default  Posted: 3:11 PM, April 20th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have only been on here for about 12 hours and your encouraging words are helping me so much. There are so many people in my life to ask advice from, but none of them has been in the position I am in or feeling the things I am feeling. Thank you to everyone for all your time to bestow your advice!


Posts: 26 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Nebraska
♀ 31349
Member # 31349
Default  Posted: 4:23 PM, April 20th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's what we're here for.

I always try to go easy and not let everything in my brain out on a post when the member is new, but for the record I am resisting the urge to come to your house, pack all of your WH's stuff in a hefty bag, and heave it out onto the lawn.

You sound so kind and gentle, and I'm afraid he's really good at taking advantage of that. Keep listening to everyone, we'll help you through this.


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom

Posts: 29076 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
♀ 37922
Member # 37922
Default  Posted: 4:30 PM, April 20th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This truly is the place to be when this happens...we get each other - the advice is dynamite and the member's hearts are made of gold...

I'm glad you found us - I'd have been lost without SI (I only wish I had found it earlier!)

Me - BW - 44
Him - FWH - 42
Married 16 years
D day - 1/2 truth - July 2012
Full disclosure - August 2012
EA with skanky waitress coworker
3 kids - 14, 16, 21
In R

Posts: 791 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Canada
♀ 38928
Member # 38928
Default  Posted: 7:16 PM, April 20th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Besides the wonderful support found here, everyone is great at offering different perspectives or ideas that you may not have considered, which is invaluable (at least for me). And it is a safe place to freely vent...

BS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - 2 adult DDs - DS20 Deceased
Happily divorced!

~Indifference - Because some people do not deserve your emotions.~

I edit often because my tablet is possessed!

Posts: 4958 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Land of Indifference
♂ 38601
Member # 38601
Default  Posted: 4:15 AM, April 21st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Omahahurt,take a deep breath, and just read some of the posts.almost everyone here has had some kind of problem,but in the same aspect,everyone's story is or has different situations,all we can do is try to make you feel better, we have BEEN THERE,because someone we love or have loved DONE THAT,like NoraLee says, we ALL have hearts of gold, they maybe broken, but we are strangers that care,take the time to look at what happen,and try to figure out what's next.take life one day at a time, we will help you all we can, this place can help you heal,read the articles in the Healing Library, they helped me, and don't be afraid to vent,ask for help, or advice. hope this helps...betrayed2years
me=BS 53
her-WS 52
betrayed 2 years, she cheated and has a S.T.D.

[This message edited by betrayed2years at 4:18 AM, April 21st (Sunday)]

Posts: 22 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: p.a.
♂ 38518
Member # 38518
Default  Posted: 4:27 PM, April 21st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


I'm so glad you found SI when you did. I wish I had done so after my first, second, third, etc., etc., DDays.. I didn't find it til after my most recent (last?) DDay. I had to try and figure all this shit out on my own! What a hell of a nightmare that was. I'm still not over it by any stretch of the imagination, but being a part of SI, knowing that I'm perfectly 'normal' for feeling the way I feel, and being involved in IC and MC has made things SO much better.

Best of luck to you, and keep reading and posting (if you feel comfortable, that is). We BS' are ALL here for YOU!

BH (me): 35
WW: 34
1 kid (7 y/o)
multiple affairs spanning our entire 11-year marriage
multiple d-days over the last 3 years (most recently: 1/3/2016)
divorced and finally released from this prison: 2/26/2016

Posts: 199 | Registered: Feb 2013
♀ 38421
Member # 38421
Default  Posted: 4:35 PM, April 21st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Omaha: I totally agree. This has been a great place for me. I haven't posted a whole lot but have read everything I see posted to help me thru this. Great bunch of people!

Jrazz: LOL!

Me: BS 53 Him: WH 51
M: 28 years
DDay 1 1986 EA Confessed,Rugswept
DDay 2 11/25/2012 EA/PA Caught
TT 9/9/13 Lies,Pictures
In R
OW:20 yrs younger M-CwOW

Posts: 228 | Registered: Feb 2013
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