My sister got engaged about a month ago. She asked me to be her maid of honor and I accepted. In all, there are 5 of us standing for her and I know all but one. She and my mom have been in full planning mode ever since and they've already started talking about attendant's dresses.
A couple of things to know about me:
1) I have a very hard body to dress. I'm tall and tend towards an apple shape, not because of extra body fat, but because my rib cage is large. Although, any extra weight I do carry, I carry around my middle. The widest part of my frame is just under my bust.
2) I'm most comfortable in jeans and t-shirts. I'm pretty laid back. While I do enjoy looking nice, I'm certainly not taking any fashion risks.
Well, my mom and my sister keep sending me pictures of dresses that I KNOW will not look good on my body. Empire waisted dresses make me look HUGE. Believe me, I've tried. I've told them this. They poo-poo me and tell me that for my shape, I should be in an empire waist. Ok, whatever. I've only been dealing with my body my whole life. And, what's frustrating is that they're passing over beautiful dresses that WOULD work because they "won't work for bluelady". Except that they would.
I know that it isn't my day and in the end, I will wear whatever my sister puts me in. But I do have some pride and I don't want to look the fool. I know her other attendants. They're all quite petite (as is my sister), so I'm already going to stand out due to my height. I told SO the other day that I'm preparing myself to look like the Jolly Pink Giant.
To be honest, I don't really know why this upsets me. It just does.