Length of time that this occurred. You start to think back to things and say damn, it was going on then?
Thinking you know someone, the closest person to you that knows everything about you and shares your life, and finding out you don't. On the flip side so desperately want the person that you knew who was honest, trustworthy, dependable but not being able to allow yourself to believe he may be there.
I want to believe what he says that we can be the best we have ever been. He's being or should I say seems to be being good about everything. His helpfulness, his attentiveness, his moving us away and getting a new job, etc, but a part of me is skeptical of it all. Not that I truly believe I should be but because I don't want to be naive. Trust but don't be naive is what I tell myself daily.
Then we move away after four of the longest months of my life which I'm thrilled about. Had to leave my dad and friends but this was supposed to happen anyway so it's ok. This just threw it into high gear. But we get a call from his best friend who lives in the other state we used to live in that he is applying for a job and surprise surprise guess who he will be working as a subordinate to? The OW. His best friend is completely aware of the situation and in fact she tried to drag him into her delusions at one point(they all worked at the same company). And I know he needs a job so I get it, I do but this situation is not good for him and potentially not good for us. Simply because we're trying to cut that connection to that workplace and the OW so she can no longer harass us. I told him that he is to keep his mouth shut! Not speak of us, not say anything. He agreed of course but something doesn't sit right. He just lost his job so I know he needs one I'm just hoping something else comes along for him.
Me: 37 Him: 39
D-Day 11/22/12 (Thanksgiving will never be the same)
Found out because technology is my friend not his.
Married: 14 yrs. separated: June 2014
A lasted 2ish years.