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User Topic: And while I am venting....
Dadtryingtocope
♂ 36726
Member # 36726
Default  Posted: 10:48 AM, April 22nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

While I am venting and probably feeling sorry for myself. Let me add this quote:

Cheating
One can cheat the other but never himself/herself, the conscience never sleeps. You can try and silence the voice but it will find a vent somewhere or the other and manifest itself into ugly features. If you have cheated, face the truth, confess and more importantly, forgive yourself. If you are cheating, stop it right away and do the same. If you go on without making terms with your conscience it will haunt you. You can go on to cheat the whole world but not the law of nature. Karma will always find its way back to you. The mirrors that reflect your actions will record that moment and when the time comes, ask you to pay back! One lie leads to another; one mistake forces you to commit more. But take the decision to be true to the ones you love and those that trust and love you. Moreover be true to yourself!

Our WS have not faced themselves.


BH me 46
WW her 38
DDay 8-17-12
2 kids (12, 9)
Filed for D 9/14/12
Divorced 4/17/13
She - engaged 5/13 married 9/13

Posts: 594 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: PA
dmari
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Member # 37215
Default  Posted: 11:09 AM, April 22nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Love this quote! Where did you find it?

The reason why most of us are here in D/S is because the WS have not faced themselves. If know if mine had, I would be in the R forum.


Me (BS): 43 Children: DD 19, DS 15
Divorced September 30, 2014
"It's always darkest before the dawn ..."

Posts: 2304 | Registered: Oct 2012
Happydays
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Member # 38681
Default  Posted: 11:24 AM, April 22nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Lovely quote.
But, I guess for people who have killed their conscience, it doesn't mean much.
E.g. My exW will always think me and a bad M pushed her to A and her fantasy is what a perfect M should be like. I'll always be the bad guy for bursting her bubble and spoiling her perfect world. Alas, some people just don't understand and will take their explanations to their graves.

[This message edited by Happydays at 11:25 AM, April 22nd (Monday)]


BH 33
FWW 32
DS: 3 year old.
Dday 10/14/2012
No remorse so:
Divorced 02/15/2013. No alimony, no CS, got apartment. Won all battles and mind games off the courts.

Posts: 294 | Registered: Mar 2013
Dadtryingtocope
♂ 36726
Member # 36726
Default  Posted: 11:29 AM, April 22nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Love this quote! Where did you find it?

I stumbled upon it. I am less than a week from getting my final D papers in the mail. Figured I needed a good quote for my FB page when I changed my status...


BH me 46
WW her 38
DDay 8-17-12
2 kids (12, 9)
Filed for D 9/14/12
Divorced 4/17/13
She - engaged 5/13 married 9/13

Posts: 594 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: PA
disillusioned12
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Member # 37542
Default  Posted: 11:38 AM, April 22nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

But, I guess for people who have killed their conscience, it doesn't mean much.

My STBXH is incapable of remorse. He chooses to live in denial and is too cowardly to face reality.


BS (Me)
WS (STBXH)
Married 2 yrs; Together 6 yrs

D-Day 11/14/12
EA(PA?)
Limbo 1 month
False R 2 months.
Status: Divorce on hold


Posts: 228 | Registered: Nov 2012
Dadtryingtocope
♂ 36726
Member # 36726
Default  Posted: 11:45 AM, April 22nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And while I am quoting. Let me add the lyrics to my current favorite song by Red - "Perfect Life". I can relate to every word in this song - perfectly (sorry couldn't help myself)...

You pretend to what you say you feel
You pretend that you're something special
All your lies that you hide behind
I see right through you
See right through you

Paint it on, cover every inch
Any flaw will expose your weakness
I'm immune to your fantasy
I won't become you
Won't become you

You want a perfect, perfect life
Nothing wrong, nothing real inside
All I see is a perfect lie
I don't want your perfect life
I don't want your perfect life

So keep your dream with no consequence
You damage me just to feed your senses
All your fake for reality
I see right through you
See right through you

Take your pride, take your vanity
Can't you see that your ego's empty
I will turn, I will walk away
I won't become you
Won't become you

You want a perfect, perfect life
Nothing wrong, nothing real inside
All I see is a perfect lie
I don't want your perfect life
I don't want your perfect life

My eyes are wide open
I see the enemy, the hypocrisy
Your cover is fading
Secrets pouring out, castles falling down
Nothing to hide behind
I know who I am inside
I'm perfectly broken

You want a perfect, perfect life
Nothing wrong, nothing real inside
All I see is a empty lie
I don't want your perfect life
I don't want your perfect life

I don't want your perfect life
I don't want your perfect life
The perfect life


BH me 46
WW her 38
DDay 8-17-12
2 kids (12, 9)
Filed for D 9/14/12
Divorced 4/17/13
She - engaged 5/13 married 9/13

Posts: 594 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: PA
cmego
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Member # 30346
Default  Posted: 2:03 PM, April 22nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'd say someone in that band is a BS!

Good song.


me...BS, 44 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced


Posts: 4231 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 2:28 PM, April 22nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I like both the quote and the song. Unfortunately, I think my POS is a souless bastard with no conscience or we would have R also. He thinks that chalking it up to "bad decisions" and he is "only human with human failings" justifies his every action... I keep telling him he needs to do a little more research on what the church says about true contrition (its a Catholic thing). I also keep telling him denial is a river in Egypt...


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 23,18 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


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