So here is the email I get from him after his first visitation with the girls since we settled last week The girls are 13 and almost 16 and knew the night I got home what happened and told them I would be fine and we are taking care of and yes dad will pay me some money. They were more concerned with summer visitation and took the high road and told them they had to give it a chance.
Just FYI, I took DD1 and DD2 through yesterday for a few minutes that 1) we'd been to settlement, 2) what it meant. In general that they should see this as a good thing in terms of making sure that we have taken all the money I make and made sure that all of our needs are met and that no matter what I'm taking care of them and you in this process. I drew out a crude chart that showed what happens to my income to take care of you and them as well as the things we own. Likewise I pointed out we would work together on all the major purchase decisions and discussions. I didn't go into may specifics or details, I just know they will see some differences coming up and that they know this is due to an organized discussion we had in their interest versus anything else. They had a few questions but nothing major. Let me know if you hear anything else ..
I am not responding to this crap and moving forward. He is still living in fantasy world that somehow our parenting time has not been altered due to his actions. HE wants a summary every week of what has happened and said no and they are not small kids anymore and they can talk with you. I will only be calling with major issues that both of us need to address. AHHH...
[This message edited by GreatRoleModel at 11:46 AM, April 22nd (Monday)]