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♀ 36434
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Default  Posted: 2:03 PM, April 22nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm glad my aunt is here, because she's helping me catch up on all the little things I've had to let slide because...3 kids, husband who thinks his job ends at 6 and my job ends at never, no relief, devoting hours every week to meeting with or contacting lawyers and planning our strategy for this process, etc. Also, suddenly STBX is back in the game. He actually washed and FOLDED laundry this weekend! He NEVER does that. If he washed clothes, he wold leave them in a big pile on the couch for me to fold, which always annoyed the crap out of me. Don't do the easy part and then leave the time consuming part for me! And this is the dude who, a month or two ago, acted like I had violated some sacred law by not folding and putting away his laundry for him. He told him I owed it to him to keep cleaning up his mess because he was paying the bills. What the fuck ever. But, hey, he's done a few things around the house to show off for my aunt, which helps me out, so bully for him. We just laugh about it because we know what he's up to.

Also, I just so happened to actually look at the balance when I got cash out a couple times this month, about 2 weeks apart, and of course I already knew he was up to something shady with the money, but holy hell did the difference in those two balances prove that! I haven't worried much about it, because I have a million other things on my plate and I knew my lawyer would handle it eventually, but it looks like it's time to get that ball rolling.

Me: BW, 34 Him: WH, 35
3 Kids: 9, 3, and 1
Decree nisi will become absolute in January. We are DONE.

Posts: 771 | Registered: Aug 2012
♀ 30826
Member # 30826
Default  Posted: 2:19 PM, April 22nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Most likely,he's doing it so he can call on your aunt as a witness that he helped around the house...if need be.

He's a piece

FWH 48
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.

Posts: 15220 | Registered: Jan 2011
♀ 26928
Member # 26928
Default  Posted: 2:22 PM, April 22nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He's trying to look like a "good husband and father" because there is someone else there to see his actions.

What an idiot.

ETA: Confused posted at the same time, but yeah...basically the same train of thought!

[This message edited by GabyBaby at 2:23 PM, April 22nd (Monday)]

Me - 45
DD(24), DS(21, PDD-NOS)

WH#2 (SorryinSac)- Killed himself (May 2015) in our home 6 days after being served divorce docs.
XWH #1 - legally married 18yrs. 12+ OW (that I know of).

I edit often for clarity/typos.

Posts: 9966 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Here and There
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Default  Posted: 2:41 PM, April 22nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He really should take up acting as a profession!

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Default  Posted: 2:52 PM, April 22nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

classic. he would NEVER be the douchebag he is to you in front of actual people. why? because he KNOWS he's acting like a selfish, bratty, domineering asshat. he's totally aware of how shitty he's being and how people would judge him.

which is why he would really prefer for that particular image to stay amongst himself and his included.

i'm so glad you have someone there to help you and comfort you. i know exactly how you feel. believe it or not, my xILs came and saved christmas right after dday. XHs mom & dad made him do all kinds of chores and fix-its. they embarrassed him with all the stuff they found neglected. their help was a godsend.

[This message edited by stretch13 at 2:53 PM, April 22nd (Monday)]

life must be rich and full of loving--it's no good otherwise, no good at all, for anyone - j. kerouac

Posts: 3929 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: east coast
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Default  Posted: 3:00 PM, April 22nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so glad you have family with you finally! I can just imagine how happy that must make you being so far from home.

And what a snake. Trying to score some brownie points while depleting your bank account.. FTG.. Definitely time to get the ball rolling..

xBW~ 37
Two DS~ 9 and 13

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♀ 32554
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Default  Posted: 3:21 PM, April 22nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so relieved for you that your auntie is there! It makes such a difference to have someone who cares for you right there in your home! (((HUGS TO YOU & AUNTIE))))

Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!

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