The question is... How can I find out. He doesn't have a smart phone nor does he have a computer. I have a laptop that we both use.
I can check the history, there is nothing. However the computer does have in private browsing which I have googled and can't figured out how to check.
I tried to install a keylogger but Norton wouldn't let me.
We are going to MC today. I don't know if it will be a waste of time or not. He can lie there just as he can lie here.
How can I find out if there is more?
But I know there's more. I'll probably never know what, though. My gut tells me there's more, but I'll never know it unless he spontaneously begins singing like the proverbial canary.
He can lie there just as he can lie here
Sadly, they can and do. Based on my experience, I would not do MC until you are at least a few months out from D-day.
If that is not your path, then you may have to move on without knowing everything. I've accepted my fate, of not really knowing for sure how much was going on the last couple of years. I can't put any more detail other than I know there were 3-5 OM involved over that time period.
Give it time. Figure out what you want to do first, then figure out what you need to get there.
Kids: 18 & 16
R for 17 months, turned out to be false R. Starting the D process.
I can say this, as you will read on SI.com and other resources, spouses who seek prostitutes have some very troubling issues, generally FAR beyond 'typical' cheating (not to suggest any cheating is 'normal' or 'OK'. But prostitutes bring a world of other risks and issues that are far deeper than typical one-night-stand-type affairs.
Follow your heart and your gut. Don't be suckered into something that you know in your heart is not right. You'll regret it forever.. I promise!
My guess however is he's not using a shared computer for this. I second combing through his cell phone log for suspicious numbers. I also suggest putting some sort of GPS locator on his phone through your cell provider if they offer it (with the non-smartphones, sometimes they can). I also suggest searching for a secret phone - look through his car thoroughly. Last ditch effort VAR in the car, because that takes up so much time going through a lot of nothing to maybe get a little evidence.
If you keep posting to 50 posts or buy SI premium, there is a wealth of info in the Investigative Tips Forum.
I also agree you will likely never know the full story. But I assume you just want to validate your gut that he is lying for your own sanity.
Hang in there.