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We were listening to the Bruno Mars song "When I Was Your Man" in the car.
I always thought the song was so sad...about infidelity & the wife leaves...he 'should have brought you flowers & held your hand, should have given you all my hours...'
'I know I'm probably much too late to try & apologize for my mistakes...'

My husband said I love this song...I asked why do you love this song, it is so sad. He responded, it's a beautiful song. I do not take you for granted. I am very grateful for you. I'm grateful for "us" and I love us and I love you.

Now the song makes me happy when I hear it. We did not give up on each other. He holds my hand...all the time, even when we sleep and he now gives me 'all his hours'.

What does your spouse do or say to let you know they love you and "get it"?

What a nice post!

My FWH also 'gets it'.

He does all kinds of kind and loving things for me everyday.

We truly do have a 'new' marriage post d-day it sounds like you do too.

Awwww <3

Mine gets it too... he is so much more affectionate now than he ever was. He will have days where he will be on the verge of tears because he realizes how much he took the kids and me for granted. He realizes what he almost threw away.

We have a very different relationship now, than we ever did before. I'm grateful he finally gets it.

Lovely, touching post.

very happy for you (((Hugs)))

What a beautiful post...brought tears of happy to my eyes. My H also gets it. He is wonderful to me. Takes great care of me in every way.

Do you ever have any downs even though they really are doing everything right? I do and it makes me angry with myself

Great post forgiving now! Thank you for it bc I have been focussing on some neg PAST stuff.

What does my H do? He tells me all the time that he loves me. That he is so very sorry. He holds my hand in BOTH of his and kisses me, calls me his angel. He knows Affirmation and Gifts are my love languages and he loves me this way. He says he is so grateful, lucky and will never harm me again.

And yes, Struggling3, even though things are going well, I do get caught up in sad stuff as noted above. Maybe its due to a trigger that I am not totally conscious of - maybe it is something I have read on SI that makes me retreat to those first 6 weeks. But I am letting him know this now - not waiting to explode.

Really sweet, forgiving now! :). I am happy for the both of you.

Thank you for sharing.

My SAWH finally gets it! He is telling me how much he loves and appreciates me. Tells everyone else how lucky he is to have me and the kids. How grateful he is that he has us! Other women are asking me what I have done to get such a loving, attentive husband. Really, it has taken almost two years to get here. Thank God!

"Do you ever have any downs even though they are doing everything right?"
struggling 3- Yes, I do. Sometimes daily, can hit me out of nowhere, but @ 25 months from dday it is getting easier to live in the present and believe and feel that his infidelity is not my reality now. Like right now, I just took him to the airport & he'll be gone for 4 days and I'm having a hard time. Travel is still a trigger...
missymomma-one of our friends asked us what out secret was(of why we were so close & so in to each other), if she only knew....why do you have to go thru so much pain to get to this level of intimacy??