I was doing really well in the fall and the after false R, have gone far downhill.
I too have good days and bad days, good seconds and bad seconds. I am currently searching for the triggers that make a happy minute come and trying to glue them onto myself.
I'm sorry for the loss of your dog. What kind was he or she? We lost ours last year and it was devestating. He was 13 and as naughty as he was loyal-though not so loyal when he took off on us!
I just started the D papers and haven't even heard if STBXH submitted them yet. I'm sorry you are in slow motion, for it seems like it makes it all longer to think about.
Pampering ourselves is a piece of I got from a cousin who is working closely with her brother, who lost his wife last year. Pampering ourselves is something that doesn't have to cost money, either, they are both quick to remind me.
One thing he does and I do is when we find any little thing we enjoy, we do it MORE! Like, he's a video gamer and I'm a tv aholic, so we indulge in an extra show or he in ten more minutes of gaming if his daughter doesn't need something (lol).
If you like taking a bath, do it again or stay in longer. Do you know what I mean?
I like driving, so I go the long way and try not to worry about the gas. Or I like sitting in my yard, so I stay an extra five minutes.
Doing things you take pride in also helps me so that when I look back on the day or increment of time, I can have a definitive accomplishment I can see.
Light chores are an example.
Maybe an extra few minutes with your dogs or another trip out on your favorite walk?
One of my only comforts at present is my lil ol' elder cat, so I work to find time to spend with her. She never rejects me and is always happy to see me. That's pretty rare. Being warm and fuzzy goes along way, too!
And realizing its okay that we ourselves need time out is helpful, too.
You gave me nothing and now it's all I've got - Bono
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess
Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.