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User Topic: How do you cope when it's one thing after another?
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Default  Posted: 8:37 PM, April 22nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Really? I just don't know how I am suppose to cope when we just start feeling we are getting on our feet and once again the ground disappears from beneath us!!!

Wh on his way home from work.

Suddenly the car completely dies.
Brakes don't work. Emergency brake doesn't work. Steering gone. Going down a hill and around a curve he ends up shifting into park to stop it just short of taking out a mail box and ending up in the ditch. Timing chains...I hate timing chains!!!

I have dinner ready when the phone rings. Wh is upset, barely speaking. Shaken but not hurt he tells me what happened and where he is. My dad and brothers head out and return with him, and the car. The older of my brothers drove it back. It dies twice on him. He said it had his nerves shaken. But wh and the car are safe at home. That's all that matters.

Ok so ya now down to the truck and with dd needing to be driven and picked up from school this is just a pain! Luckily my parents are right there to offer to help.

We will find another car, the word is out and my brother is the car miracle worker. But still WHY???

Why is it just one thing after another?
Why can't we have just one month of nothing crazy happening?

I feel like a magnet for bad luck!!!

Wh and I have always joked that life is never boring...I would give anything for boring right about now!!!

Am I the only one who feels this way?

Posts: 4727 | Registered: May 2011 | From: Canada
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Default  Posted: 8:51 PM, April 22nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Usually when we are in a down patch, I try to turn it around and say, "wow, we have gone 48 hours with a catastrophe!" Whenever I start being on the pity pot, shit gets worse! Every time.

It's always easier said than done, of course. In this particular scenario, you could be thankful he wasn't injured, didn't hurt anyone else, and the fix will be possible. You could feel blessed, instead of cursed.

(I always try that, but am not always successful)

Him WH
2 ddays in '07
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

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Default  Posted: 9:45 PM, April 22nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think i'll have to start going hourly

I am thankful wh wasn't hurt. It could have been so much worse. I just wish that if I am being "tested", perhaps I could use some study time now instead lol. I have gotten tothe point where I wake up and think "what's going to happen today". It's bad thinking I know.

We did try to enjoy the rest of the evening. Had dinner, took the kids outside to play then went for a family walk. It was nice.

Posts: 4727 | Registered: May 2011 | From: Canada
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Default  Posted: 9:57 PM, April 22nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You take a deep breath, and you just keep swimming. Truly - some days it is just a miracle that I make it to bedtime still in one piece. And it can feel so very relentless when one thing happens right after another.

You just keep swimming and keep looking for the positives, no matter how small. (((((DH)))))

You can call me NIK

“The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves.”
― Pema Chödrön

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Default  Posted: 10:03 PM, April 22nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Really, I think most people experience what you are experiencing. Since about two years before D-Day we have: lost four grandparents (all of which we were very close to), survived the aftermath of the A, lost jobs, lost a truck, lost a house, had two children with major health crises, had our car breakdown numerous times, almost gotten divorced twice, been looked over for opportunities that we should have been accepted for/given a chance at, and have stretched every month to make ends meet. Many days I feel like I am at my wits end, but to be completely honest the good outweighs the bad and I do genuinely love this crazy life I am blessed with. How do I cope...I don't focus on the stupid shit that happens; I focus on the good that does

Me: FBW/30 Him: FWH/34 The kidlets: DS14, DS11, and DD9 The hounds: Four Shih Tzu's
Finally, completely R'd
Clothed in strength and dignity, with nothing to fear, she smiles when she thinks about the future.~Proverbs 31:25

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Default  Posted: 6:27 AM, April 23rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You just keep swimming

When I read that I read it in Dory's voice We have watched Finding Nemo alot lately (DS loves the turtles). It's like the quote from the movie The Robinsons. "keep moving forward" by Walt Dinsney.

And that's what we will do. Keep moving forward, keep swimming. I just feel like I'm drowning at times. I find I have to be the strong one. Wh needs to be told "everything is going to be ok" a lot.

Today I have to get dd to a doctor. Her cough worsened. She was up ALL night. Poor child, I tried everything. Needless to say she's not a happy little girl.

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