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User Topic: NB bring new
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Member # 11089
Default  Posted: 1:28 PM, April 23rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So I met a guy gave it almost a month and it is over just as quick as it started...Besides questioning myself about what went wrong or what could I have done differently I have decided to take it as a learning experience....He is a good guy but unfortunately hurt too many times to trust anyone fully and who am I not to absolutely understand that!! He showed all the attention in the beginning and than pulled back...I kept getting the " I like you so much text" and than he would go silent for a day and than out of no where text me "how are you"??? He tried reassuring me that he likes me but told me he is afraid of being not that I am in a rush or anything but I don't like this in between messes with me...makes me feel like he is playing games (but maybe not) anyway I like him but I don't feel the butterflies and I am ok with not seeing him I have decided to add this to my list of experience and move on...NEXT!!

3 beautiful boys (21,20 & 17)
Update: Moved in to my own apartment 8/7/2012
10/27/2014-Met a wonderful man 9months ago
Divorce final 3/27/2013

Posts: 1121 | Registered: Jun 2006 | From: Pennsylvania
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Member # 20470
Default  Posted: 3:06 PM, April 23rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi Veelop,

This is my first post in NB. :)

Your post struck a great chord with me. I love how healthy it is. You recognize that others may be bringing their own baggage into a new relationship, that that baggage may not be good for the place you are in right now... and moving on! Very nice.

M 11 years
Me: BS 38 Him: WS
DDay June 2006, LTA BFFOW
Divorced April 5, 2013
Not making a decision is making a decision.

Posts: 534 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Alaska
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Member # 19258
Default  Posted: 3:16 PM, April 23rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

ditto what wtf just posted.

veelop you are just handling all of this NB stuff like a rock star.

not every good guy is the right guy for you

But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler

Posts: 9596 | Registered: Apr 2008
♀ 33406
Member # 33406
Default  Posted: 6:47 PM, April 23rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You're making the right decision! My first NB "relationship" was also over in the blink of an eye. Same idea, guy was really into me one date and blowing completely cold the next. Whatever. Don't need these people in our lives! As you say, chalk it up to experience and move on.

Me: BS (32)
Together: 14 years
DDay: May 18, 2011
Separation date: November 18, 2012

Posts: 73 | Registered: Sep 2011
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