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So I met a guy gave it almost a month and it is over just as quick as it started...Besides questioning myself about what went wrong or what could I have done differently I have decided to take it as a learning experience....He is a good guy but unfortunately hurt too many times to trust anyone fully and who am I not to absolutely understand that!! He showed all the attention in the beginning and than pulled back...I kept getting the " I like you so much text" and than he would go silent for a day and than out of no where text me "how are you"??? He tried reassuring me that he likes me but told me he is afraid of being hurt...so not that I am in a rush or anything but I don't like this in between feeling...it messes with me...makes me feel like he is playing games (but maybe not) anyway I like him but I don't feel the butterflies and I am ok with not seeing him again...so I have decided to add this to my list of experience and move on...NEXT!!

Hi Veelop,

This is my first post in NB. :)

Your post struck a great chord with me. I love how healthy it is. You recognize that others may be bringing their own baggage into a new relationship, that that baggage may not be good for the place you are in right now... and moving on! Very nice.

ditto what wtf just posted.

veelop you are just handling all of this NB stuff like a rock star.

not every good guy is the right guy for you

You're making the right decision! My first NB "relationship" was also over in the blink of an eye. Same idea, guy was really into me one date and blowing completely cold the next. Whatever. Don't need these people in our lives! As you say, chalk it up to experience and move on.