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LA44 posted 4/23/2013 14:30 PM

Well, yesterday was my BF's bday. Since she lives in another province so we were on the phone. My H came in the room and asked if he could wish her well (they had only emailed before this and it was a couple months after D-Day). I asked her if it would be okay if he got on the phone. There was a brief pause and she said, "Of course!"

Then they had a short but friendly chat. I cried when he hung up. The moment just touched me. My BF was SICK about the A. She stood by me and asked him a lot of questions earlier this year. She told him how she felt. But when I told her we wanted to R, she told me that she would support that.

Truly, as my Maid of Honour, 15 years ago, she stood by her promise to be there for us in times of trouble. She sees the big picture. And I love her for that.

Just wanted to share.

How are things with your spouse and BF?

[This message edited by LA44 at 2:31 PM, April 23rd (Tuesday)]

Conflicted1 posted 4/23/2013 14:33 PM

How lucky you are to have a BF that is also a friend to your marriage.

KeepCalm_CarryOn posted 4/23/2013 14:34 PM

This happened to us when a year after D-day we went to my best friend's wedding. She had been my MOH and I was hers, but it was the first time through everything FWH and BF were going to be in the same place...and my BF is not one to bite her tongue. I was PETRIFIED. They had a little chat, away from everyone else, and the rest of the weekend was perfect including FWH doing all the extra little stuff BF needed for her wedding!

She has supported me through R, but also him. It's been pretty awesome.

guarded posted 4/27/2013 17:25 PM

My WH and one if my best friends still don't talk and it really is terrible bc I rarely get to see or talk to her much anymore. If we see her in public, like in a store, etc. she will come over or I will go to talk to her but WH will disappear. I don' t make any excuses for him and it is just too bad for him, but he is angry with her for telling him during the A that he was being a total shit. She is loyal to a fault and was the ONLY person we know, including both our families, besides me that called him on his behavior during the affair. I have tremendous respect for her for this and very little for all those that thought it just wasn't their business. Which is why he feels justified being angry with her, that it was not her business. I say bullshit either way.

918Mama posted 4/28/2013 11:18 AM

My BF and her husband just got a shotgun. She asked me if I knew anyone who could give them some lessons and gun safety training.

My H is an officer. I made a joke about knowing someone but probably not anyone she would want lessons from. She said, dead seriously:

"IF I ever see him again, it should NEVER be when I have a gun in my hands."

She's the friend that if I showed up at her house in the middle of the night with a dead body in my car, would ask no questions, get her shovel and drive me deep into the desert to bury the body.

So I'm glad your H and BF can talk!!!

Stangfreak posted 4/28/2013 19:43 PM

My spouses BF was one of the ones not only assisting, but encouraging him to cheat by offering to cover for him and trying to set him up with women at his church, at which he is a deacon. He was the best man at our wedding.

I am so glad that you have such a supportive friend. Hold on to that one, because friends like that don't come around every day.

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