My grandparents and great-grandmother live in another state, but my grandparents travel a lot. They've apparently visited my city a few times in the past year to visit my father. I haven't seen them, but knowing they're around freaks me out.
I found out more details. Yeah, they're definitely going to be pissed. They were controlling her money and taking a large chunk of it each month, and my great-grandmother was stressing out not knowing if she had enough for bills or groceries.
Also, her inheritance has already been split between my grandmother and my father - an investment my great-grandmother had once held, and her own property now belongs to them. But my grandparents were taking about half her money each month. They're going to be furious. Knowing my great-grandmother, she would probably give them money anyway, but after she made sure she could pay the bills, because she has a kind heart (though my grandparents already have their own retirement money coming in). I'm scared for my great-grandmother. Actually, I'm scared for all of us.
There was something that happened almost two years ago. According to her neighbor, my grandfather almost shot her daughter in the arm and then ordered them to the ground screaming, even though they were calling out that he knew who they were. According to his lawyers and my father, he fired in the air to warn them because he thought they were poachers or something. He got off with only 21 days in jail and got his guns back, but it's on his record now. Naturally he never apologized; he never does. Scared of him. I've accepted he has every right to be angry with me. We had a very bad fight 4 years ago, and during the fight I felt very backed into a corner. I had asked my grandmother to back off three times, and when she didn't, in my stupidity, I slapped her. I absolutely know I was wrong to do that, and I apologized to her and did what she asked when she said to get professional help. I accept that I deserve to lose our relationship, that is an understandable consequence, or if they had chosen to press charges (I told my therapist, who informed Senior Protective Services, and they checked in with her). I'd accept it if they wanted to beat the hell out of me, I'd deserve that too. However, my grandfather does not have the right to shoot anyone. He had wished death on me earlier in that same fight, before my bad choice, and of course afterward again as well with a direct threat. I wish they had kept his guns. I have no idea what I could do; he's got connections. Besides, even if he didn't my father does, and my father is 100% with him and my grandmother. I think the safest thing is to be as uninteresting as possible to them.
[This message edited by silverhopes at 10:43 AM, April 24th (Wednesday)]