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Jack317 posted 4/24/2013 10:08 AM

Last night BS asked me to get off the computer, as it was causing a sever trigger. I did. Then later in the evening, I got on it again. Again, she asked me to get off. I became defensive, and told her she should be over it by now. I felt 6 inches tall. I really hurt her. Anyone else experience anything like this?

BaxtersBFF posted 4/24/2013 11:37 AM

Sorry you had a rough night. Why did you get defensive?

You're going to be leaving soon right? Is that making your time on the computer more of a trigger than it might otherwise have been?

Apple3point14 posted 4/24/2013 11:38 AM

About 1 month after d-day my bs told me I killed her. I told her she was being dramatic. I may never forgive myself for that. I have learned and grown since then, but wow.

Apple3point14 posted 4/24/2013 11:42 AM

I try very hard to recognize and predict my wifes triggers and do everything I can to NOT do them. You should look at why you knowingly did what she told you would trigger her.
I don't want to cause my wife anymore pain.

[This message edited by Apple3point14 at 11:43 AM, April 24th (Wednesday)]

Aubrie posted 4/24/2013 13:34 PM

told her she should be over it by now.

Not only do you destroy your BS's heart, but you also get to dictate when she should be over it?

Unagie posted 4/24/2013 15:10 PM

WS Only

[This message edited by Deeply Scared at 3:15 PM, April 24th (Wednesday)]