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Last night my WH and I get a text from one of our friend to please come over to their house ASAP, so we went over to find my gf drunk and in a rage after finding out the bf of 6 years was cheating on her. I tried to get herout of there. So I finally get her into the backseat of my car with my WH driving but then in her rage she jumps out of as we were moving and went back into the house to fight some more. Thankful she didn't get hurt but had to be escorted off the property by the police.

I know exactly what she is feeling. I tried to comfort her the best I could. I'm only 7 week tomorrow from d day so I hope with everything that I have learn from everyone from SI and what i Read, I hope I was able to give her some good advice.

She was drunk and the edge of ending her life.

I don't what is going on in this world latlely!

I know that my WH has been upset all day seeing her pain. He tuned me out for the first couple of weeks when I was like that. But now realized how much ones persons action effects others around them.

It is still very new and raw for you. Be there for her but remember her journey and experience is NOT yours.

You both are in pain (rightfully so) try hard to see the instances as separate events because they are.

We are all flawed human beings and we all make mistakes some more harmful than others.

I am so sorry you both are going through this. Take one day at a time and remember to be kind to yourself. Allow yourself to feel all the emotions that come along with infidelity. Be mad/sad/pissed/scared/confused, etc. You have to feel them all to get through them.

Your question is a reasonable one but only the WS can answer the what, the why the how.

Stay strong. You are not alone.

Prayers for peace in your heart.

Faith

[This message edited by 1Faith at 3:08 PM, April 24th (Wednesday)]

I hope it was good wake up call for WS in the cause/effect of an affair!

I hope that you are able to guide her and get her help asap if she is truly on the edge of her life. Glad she has you.