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User Topic: 20 years
BaxtersBFF
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Member # 26859
Default  Posted: 10:28 PM, April 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Tonight is our 20th wedding anniversary.

Six years ago I made some horrible choices. And tonight we spent our 20th out bowling with our two kids. It was the perfect evening. One that even a couple years ago I wasn't sure I would see.

To all the WS out there...stick with it. Do the work. Days like this are what makes me realize that it is worth the fight. Not just the fight for yourself, but the fight for those who have helped make you who you are, or who you can be, if you choose to do the work.

Gerrygirl, I'm so sorry for what I put you through, but I'm so happy for where we are at today. Thank you for having faith in me, and in us. I love you.

BaxtersBFF


WH - 44
BW - gerrygirl

Posts: 6103 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Boise
cinnamongurl
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Member # 37879
Default  Posted: 10:31 PM, April 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you Baxters! This warms my soul! Happy 20 to you both!


Me: 36 fWGF He: 35 BBF and my heart
Together 18 yrs. Many ddays, last one late 8/12 "Healing takes courage, and we all have courage, even if we have to dig a little to find it." Tori Amos



Posts: 514 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: home with my heart.
badchoice
♂ 35566
Member # 35566
Default  Posted: 11:04 PM, April 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So nice to read this.

Happy 20th!


Me: fWH/BH 46

Separated transitioning to D


Posts: 730 | Registered: May 2012 | From: L.A.
tired girl
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Member # 28053
Default  Posted: 11:11 PM, April 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations to both of you tonight and Happy Anniversary.

Always nice to see a positive post.


Me45 Him 45 Hardlessons DS 25,23,20
D Day 1/18/10 his 3/8/2012 mine
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Eleanor Roosevelt

Posts: 5247 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: az
wifehad5
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Member # 15162
Default  Posted: 3:28 AM, April 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Happy 20th


FBH - 42
FWW - 43 (BrokenRoad)
2 kids 7&12

The people you do your life with shape the life you live


Posts: 37884 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Michigan
authenticnow
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Member # 16024
Default  Posted: 5:22 AM, April 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Happy 20th Anniversary, Baxter and Gerrygirl!


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


Posts: 38977 | Registered: Sep 2007
heartbroken0903
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Member # 27879
Default  Posted: 9:01 AM, April 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Happy anniversary!


Me: XWS, 30s, 5-month EA/PA in '09-'10
Husband: XBS, 40s
No kids

Married 2.5 years
D-day 3/6/10
Divorced 5/14/10

We remarried in 2014.


Posts: 2372 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: the cat's meow
hardlessons
♂ 35025
Member # 35025
Default  Posted: 9:38 AM, April 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Awesome BBFF & GG!

TG and I will drink some gin & juice for you!


Me WH
Wife Tired Girl
3 adult sons
"a wayward...annnnd just a tad betrayed."

Posts: 880 | Registered: Mar 2012 | From: Arizona
SoVerySadNow
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Member # 36711
Default  Posted: 9:42 AM, April 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Happy 20th! So awesome!


Me:BW
Him:WH
D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.

Posts: 1292 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Sunny Florida
Diva0702
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Member # 32309
Default  Posted: 9:51 AM, April 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh my goodness! What a beautiful post Baxter! Gerrygirl must be overwhelmed!

Congratulations to you both on your 20th!

We celebrated our 20th last October, and your post made me cry, I'm so delighted for you all!



Me: BW 53
Him: FWH 47
4 wonderful grown children
2 beautiful grandchildren
Married 20 years
Together 23 years
Dday March 10 2010. 4 yr A.
Me: RGN(ret), N.Dip.,BA(Psych),MA (Psych),BA Music.
OW: 55 year old taxi driver

Posts: 333 | Registered: May 2011 | From: UK
hurting7897
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Member # 34761
Default  Posted: 9:53 AM, April 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations! We just celebrated our 20th as well but we are only a year out from d-day #3 so it was more tenous a celebration for us. We made it to 20; we didnt' think we would either.


Married 20 years
Me-BS-51
Him-FWH-46 "healing4us2"
2 kids, DD 12 and DS 16
D-day #1 Jan. 30,2012
D-day #2 April 12, 2012
D-day #3 April 15, 2012
June 24, 2012--Decided to R.
January 21, 2014-Forgave him! Life is swe
December 2014--a

Posts: 228 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Wisconsin
smile_it_helps
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Member # 17569
Default  Posted: 10:14 AM, April 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations!! I hope you also got a babysitter for this weekend for some alone time!


me bs
him fws
19 years
OW was my best friend
2 amazing kids
finding happiness again
separation 12/27/07
let him come back 3/25/08
Just had our 25th anniversary.

Posts: 385 | Registered: Jan 2008
MissesJai
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Member # 24849
Default  Posted: 3:30 PM, April 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

love this! Happy anniversary!


FWW - 41
"Don't think first about the risks of speaking up. Think first about the risks of not speaking up." ~ Kerry Patterson

Posts: 6042 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: So Cal.....
heartache101
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Member # 26465
Default  Posted: 3:34 PM, April 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Happy Aniversary to the both of you!!!


There are degrees to which you let people back into your life and degrees to which you let them back into your heart-which, of course, are not the same thing

Posts: 3199 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Indiana
PippaPeach6
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Default  Posted: 3:34 PM, April 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Baxter & Gerrygirl)))

Happy 20th! And to many more happy years together


Us: 50ish, madhatters, married 20 odd yrs
TT: May 2009 'til June
DDay for both: June 17, 2009
Me: 2x, same person, 1991
Him: 1.5 year PA (EA?) 2007-2009
Reconciled

Honey Badger don't care. - Randall


Posts: 386 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Flyover chic
Aubrie
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Default  Posted: 3:37 PM, April 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Happy Anniversary you two.


"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne

Posts: 6532 | Registered: Nov 2011
BaxtersBFF
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Member # 26859
Default  Posted: 4:38 PM, April 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks everyone.


WH - 44
BW - gerrygirl

Posts: 6103 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Boise
Jrazz
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Member # 31349
Default  Posted: 5:02 PM, April 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Awwww I just saw this. Very sweet post. Happy 20th, you two!!


"Welcome the rawness of vulnerability as an opportunity to open." - Pema Chodron

Me: BW 35
Crazz: WH 33
Daughter: 4.5 Going on 16


Posts: 18702 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
Lucky
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Default  Posted: 6:29 PM, April 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Happy Anniversary you two love birds


♥ WINE - the other fruit juice! ♥


Posts: 36162 | Registered: Apr 2005
LosferWords
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Member # 30369
Default  Posted: 6:32 PM, April 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Happy Anniversary!


Why don't you just say it? I'm the worst toy-maker in the world. I'm a Cotton-Headed Ninnymuggins!

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