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Topic: 20 years
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BaxtersBFF
♂ 26859
Member # 26859 |  Posted: 10:28 PM, April 24th (Wednesday), 2013 |     |
Tonight is our 20th wedding anniversary.
Six years ago I made some horrible choices. And tonight we spent our 20th out bowling with our two kids. It was the perfect evening. One that even a couple years ago I wasn't sure I would see.
To all the WS out there...stick with it. Do the work. Days like this are what makes me realize that it is worth the fight. Not just the fight for yourself, but the fight for those who have helped make you who you are, or who you can be, if you choose to do the work.
Gerrygirl, I'm so sorry for what I put you through, but I'm so happy for where we are at today. Thank you for having faith in me, and in us. I love you.
BaxtersBFF
WH - 44
BW - gerrygirl
Posts: 6103 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Boise |
cinnamongurl
♀ 37879
Member # 37879 | | Posted: 10:31 PM, April 24th (Wednesday), 2013 | |
Thank you Baxters! This warms my soul! Happy 20 to you both!
Me: 36 fWGF He: 35 BBF and my heart
Together 18 yrs. Many ddays, last one late 8/12 "Healing takes courage, and we all have courage, even if we have to dig a little to find it." Tori Amos
Posts: 519 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: home with my heart. |
badchoice
♂ 35566
Member # 35566 | | Posted: 11:04 PM, April 24th (Wednesday), 2013 | |
So nice to read this.
Happy 20th!
Me: fWH/BH 46
Separated transitioning to D
Posts: 730 | Registered: May 2012 | From: L.A. |
tired girl
♀ 28053
Member # 28053 | | Posted: 11:11 PM, April 24th (Wednesday), 2013 | |
Congratulations to both of you tonight and Happy Anniversary.
Always nice to see a positive post.
Me45 Him 45 Hardlessons DS 25,23,20
D Day 1/18/10 his 3/8/2012 mine
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Eleanor Roosevelt
Posts: 5446 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: az |
wifehad5
♂ 15162
Member # 15162 | | Posted: 3:28 AM, April 25th (Thursday), 2013 | |
Happy 20th
FBH - 42
FWW - 43 (BrokenRoad)
2 kids 7&12
The people you do your life with shape the life you live
Posts: 39020 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Michigan |
authenticnow
♀ 16024
Member # 16024 | | Posted: 5:22 AM, April 25th (Thursday), 2013 | |
Happy 20th Anniversary, Baxter and Gerrygirl!
Happiness is an inside job. ---William Arthur Ward
Posts: 40795 | Registered: Sep 2007 |
heartbroken0903
♀ 27879
Member # 27879 | | Posted: 9:01 AM, April 25th (Thursday), 2013 | |
Happy anniversary!
Me: XWS, 30s, 5-month EA/PA in '09-'10
Husband: XBS, 40s
No kids
Married 2.5 years
D-day 3/6/10
Divorced 5/14/10
We remarried in 2014
Posts: 2422 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: the cat's meow |
hardlessons
♂ 35025
Member # 35025 | | Posted: 9:38 AM, April 25th (Thursday), 2013 | |
Awesome BBFF & GG!
TG and I will drink some gin & juice for you!
Me WH
Wife Tired Girl
3 adult sons
"a wayward...annnnd just a tad betrayed."
Posts: 880 | Registered: Mar 2012 | From: Arizona |
SoVerySadNow
♀ 36711
Member # 36711 | | Posted: 9:42 AM, April 25th (Thursday), 2013 | |
Happy 20th! So awesome!
Me:BW
Him:WH
D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.
Posts: 1292 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Sunny Florida |
Diva0702
♀ 32309
Member # 32309 | | Posted: 9:51 AM, April 25th (Thursday), 2013 | |
Oh my goodness! What a beautiful post Baxter! Gerrygirl must be overwhelmed!
Congratulations to you both on your 20th!
We celebrated our 20th last October, and your post made me cry, I'm so delighted for you all!
Me: BW 53
Him: FWH 47
4 wonderful grown children
2 beautiful grandchildren
Married 20 years
Together 23 years
Dday March 10 2010. 4 yr A.
Me: RGN(ret), N.Dip.,BA(Psych),MA (Psych),BA Music.
OW: 55 year old taxi driver
Posts: 333 | Registered: May 2011 | From: UK |
hurting7897
♀ 34761
Member # 34761 | | Posted: 9:53 AM, April 25th (Thursday), 2013 | |
Congratulations! We just celebrated our 20th as well but we are only a year out from d-day #3 so it was more tenous a celebration for us. We made it to 20; we didnt' think we would either.
Married 20 years
Me-BS-51
Him-FWH-46 "healing4us2"
2 kids, DD 12 and DS 16
D-day #1 Jan. 30,2012
D-day #2 April 12, 2012
D-day #3 April 15, 2012
June 24, 2012--Decided to R.
January 21, 2013-Forgave him! Life is sweet
Posts: 229 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Wisconsin |
smile_it_helps
♀ 17569
Member # 17569 | | Posted: 10:14 AM, April 25th (Thursday), 2013 | |
Congratulations!! I hope you also got a babysitter for this weekend for some alone time!
me bs
him fws
19 years
OW was my best friend
2 amazing kids
finding happiness again
separation 12/27/07
let him come back 3/25/08
Just had our 25th anniversary.
Posts: 390 | Registered: Jan 2008 |
MissesJai
♀ 24849
Member # 24849 | | Posted: 3:30 PM, April 25th (Thursday), 2013 | |
love this! Happy anniversary!
FWW - 41
"Don't think first about the risks of speaking up. Think first about the risks of not speaking up." ~ Kerry Patterson
Posts: 6066 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: So Cal..... |
heartache101
♀ 26465
Member # 26465 | | Posted: 3:34 PM, April 25th (Thursday), 2013 | |
Happy Aniversary to the both of you!!!
There are degrees to which you let people back into your life and degrees to which you let them back into your heart-which, of course, are not the same thing
Posts: 3205 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Indiana |
PippaPeach6
♀ 37523
Member # 37523 | | Posted: 3:34 PM, April 25th (Thursday), 2013 | |
(((Baxter & Gerrygirl)))
Happy 20th! And to many more happy years together
Us: 50ish, madhatters, married 20 odd yrs
TT: May 2009 'til June
DDay for both: June 17, 2009
Me: 2x, same person, 1991
Him: 1.5 year PA (EA?) 2007-2009
Reconciled
Honey Badger don't care. - Randall
Posts: 386 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Flyover chic |
Aubrie
♀ 33886
Member # 33886 | | Posted: 3:37 PM, April 25th (Thursday), 2013 | |
Happy Anniversary you two.
"You give me that bottom of the 9th, last at bat, tied game, grand slam, full of butterflies kind of feeling." - My Husband
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne
Posts: 6770 | Registered: Nov 2011 |
BaxtersBFF
♂ 26859
Member # 26859 | | Posted: 4:38 PM, April 25th (Thursday), 2013 | |
Thanks everyone.
WH - 44
BW - gerrygirl
Posts: 6103 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Boise |
Jrazz
♀ 31349
Member # 31349 | | Posted: 5:02 PM, April 25th (Thursday), 2013 | |
Awwww I just saw this. Very sweet post. Happy 20th, you two!! 
"All the wars, all the hatred, all the ignorance in the world come out of being so invested in our opinions. And at bottom, those opinions are merely our efforts to escape the underlying uneasiness of being human. - Pema Chodron
Posts: 20735 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California |
Lucky
♀ 6864
Member # 6864 | | Posted: 6:29 PM, April 25th (Thursday), 2013 | |
Happy Anniversary you two love birds
♥ WINE - the other fruit juice! ♥
Posts: 36162 | Registered: Apr 2005 |
LosferWords
♂ 30369
Member # 30369 | | Posted: 6:32 PM, April 25th (Thursday), 2013 | |
Happy Anniversary!
"I'm touched by the idea that when we do things that are useful and helpful -- collecting these shards of spirituality -- that we may be helping to bring about a healing." — Leonard Nimoy
Posts: 10448 | Registered: Dec 2010 |
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