Who will be in this family session?
You, and your children? Is your X included?
It sounds like your X is doing his best to instill fear of retribution in you. Are you afraid he will go for custody of the kids?
Parenting from a place of fear gives someone else the power in the dynamics. At leas that was how it was with me. I kept trying to make him parent... he wanted nothing to do with parenting, he wanted to be fun. It created a difficult dynamic when my kids were teens. He had no rules in place that they had to adhere to. Heck if I were a teen, I would want to live there! When they were in my home the attitude they had at X's was alive and well and made me miserable. I was the adult, I should have had control... and I couldn't figure out how to take back control. My kids were treating me like there dad treated me. It sucked.
Can you meet the counselor in private with the idea that you want this therapy to goal oriented? And ask how do you bring the issues you have?
[This message edited by Kajem at 11:17 AM, April 25th (Thursday)]