Hi lotusflower12: Our MC gave us a handout about worries.
Box 1: Important: Can Control
Box 2: Important: Can't control
Box 3: Not Important: Can Control
Box 4: Not Important: Can't Control.
She suggested to me that I "worry" only about those items in Box 1 - Important and CAN control.
Right now, I see your worry as being in Box 2. Important but CANNOT control.
If this is true - if you are in Box 2 - the goal is to think about either a) gaining more control of the worry and moving it to Box 1 or, let the worry go.
Yes. Easier said that done! But if your H said they used condoms and if you cannot tell by looking at her if she is pregnant then...I see you as worrying about something that you have NO CONTROL over.
If she does turn out to be pregnant, then that is a different ballgame. But there are things you and your H can do to be in Box 1 if this happens. You can help control the situation in how it affects YOUR lives but there is nothing you can do about her pregnancy. You might even find some worries for every single box but remember - only deal with Box #1.
Not sure if you find this helpful. You might want to draw a box with 4 squares right now and fill each box with as many worries as you can and then decide to stop worrying about ONE item per box.
Time will tell but given the timeline...I would think she is NOT pregnant.
[This message edited by LA44 at 2:22 PM, April 25th (Thursday)]