How are you fighting for your own rights?
I'm not being cheeky - I'm genuinely curious?
I'm reaching a place where I don't see the need to fight anymore. It is a waste of energy.
Kajem is right - lower your expectations so you're not constantly blindsided. Even though I expect the appalling I'm still shocked that he goes there. Shock is better than disappointment. Shock is detached, like watching monkeys eat their own poo. I've read they do it, I've heard people talking about it but seeing it is a whole other kettle of fish.
If its in the divorce agreement you either need to comply or take it to lawyers to try to change it.
If its not in the divorce agreement and she is pulling some fuckery - you can be shocked but don't let yourself be disappointed.
Easier said than done, I know. I'm disappointed for my girls too. Even with these lower-than-a-snakes-belly-button expectations he still seems to fail.
She is entitled to do what she likes and try to pull whatever stunt she wants to pull.
You are entitled to let it get to you.
Whatever it is there is a choice - it sucks arse when we don't like any of the options but we still have a choice.
I will have to change my girls lives significantly shortly thanks to their fathers fuckery. It sucks but beating my head on a brick wall won't make it suck less.
This isn't a 2x4 OIAL - its communion and support. I have another 16 years of this shit. I envy you that you have a few less years. I wish it could be different for both of us - the only way it can be different is in how much we let it impact us.
You can't control the fuckery they pull but you can control how much you let it mess with your head.
((OIAL)) Vent away brother - just don't get stuck here too long.
[This message edited by StrongButBroken at 10:24 AM, April 26th (Friday)]