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whyisthismylife posted 4/25/2013 22:04 PM

We hit our one year of dday in January and initially I wanted a divorce... Then after we started down that road and I saw the pain in the kids and everyone, I changed my mind and we started counseling. Decided to try to work it out and we had a couple good weeks. Long story short, I got pregnant and he's thrilled.... I am terribly sick with this pregnancy and stress makes it worse. I resolved myself to the road of reconciliation and just figure its got to get better.... Until today.... I found out he lied to me today. He got off work early to go umpire a baseball game. His baseball obsession is a problem in our marriage right now because he has it on a higher priority than work or time with the family. He doesn't get a good response from me about time with baseball and now I discover he is lying about it. I discovered where he was because we have a GPS app on our phones and when I'm wondering if he's left or how long till he comes home and he's not answering his phone, I use it. So tonight after I discover where he is, I text him a few times....where are you? When will you be home? When he left the game he texted how his car broke down and he was trying to text me and how he finally got it back and running, would be home soon..... Came home and was more elaborate about the story. I was sick so I just listened and played down to go to bed.... I am devastated that he is lying about baseball.... And that I thought this would work!!! I don't know what to so now..... I'm pregnant and so dependent and yet hate that I am! If in weren't pregnant, ID be done....that's it.... Don't need any more reasons not to trust. I have never known he was lying and NOT called him out on it. Should I wait until next counseling? Should I start investigating more again and see what else I find (oh god).... I'm NOT a good liar but I may have to become one.... This sucks :-('

Hearthache again posted 4/25/2013 22:19 PM


I was 18 weeks pregnant when I had dday#2. It was rough. Above all else make yourself and the baby you are carrying a priority. Try to eat well and sleep good. Don't forget to drink plenty of water and take your vitamins.

You do need to address the lying but you may need reinforcements to get through to your WH. He may see this as trivial since he was at a sporting event and not cheating. Do you have a couple of people he respects and will listen too able to help with this. My H didn't believe he had depression until I got a lot of other people to agree with me. Good luck.

[This message edited by Hearthache again at 10:19 PM, April 25th (Thursday)]

Rya617 posted 4/25/2013 22:31 PM

I completely agree with the last response. I was 5 months pregnant on Dday and that kind of stress can make you feel horrible..don't forget to take care of yourself and I would say to just take it one day at a time. Good luck and stay strong!

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