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User Topic: I've read a book! A whole book! Finally!
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Default  Posted: 5:01 AM, April 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So, some of you will have read that and thought, "Yeah, so what???!!!"

But, I've been on this whole roller coaster since June 2008 so to me this is an big deal.

Pre FWH A I devoured books, I loved books, I bought a new book practically every week !

During and ever since I have struggled with concentrating and so have started books but never managed to read beyond the first page!

I have 2 books recommended by guys on here :
2 good to leave 2 bad to stay and Post Infidelity Stress Disorder and have had them for about 18 months to 2 years now and they are still unread.

Well, I decided I would try to read again so downloaded Frank Peretti's Piercing the Darkness as I read it many years ago and was reminded of it last week and thought that, at least if I download it I can keep dipping in and out as I choose and it won't matter much if I don't finish it as it was cheaper to download than to buy.

I finished that book in 4 days!!!

Granted I had a couple of false starts but I managed to get right into it and loved it!!

Progress! For MrsDoubtfire at least!

It may be a while before I read another, but it might not. I'm just pleased to say I managed to finish one after all these years

BS(Me) FWH(Him) DDay 05.09
A went underground. True R 02.10
I won't let another woman reap the benefit of enjoying the man my H has now becomeć

Posts: 1622 | Registered: Jul 2009
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Member # 37154
Default  Posted: 5:05 AM, April 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good for you!!

Dday -9/23/2012

Posts: 2309 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: northeast
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Member # 38044
Default  Posted: 5:34 AM, April 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Way to go!!!!

I can relate to the little victories that mean so much.

Thanks for posting!

God be with us all.

ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not yet incurred.

Posts: 5825 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
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Default  Posted: 5:48 AM, April 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's fabulous!
Books were a casualty of the A for me as well. Pre A, I devoured my books in a day. But post A, I couldn't trudge through a paragraph. I just couldn't invest in the characters or the story. So I completely get how this is a huge leap forward!

oops I accidentally erased my old signature and I'm sorry for all of my edits, it seems I need glasses.

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Alex CR
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Default  Posted: 6:00 AM, April 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Totally get this! I used to eat books. I have since I was a child hiding under the bedcovers at night with a flashlight to read my Nancy Drews.

After DDay I couldn't keep my mind focused long enough to read a newspaper article. Took me about two years to recover my focus again and inch my way back into reading. Over the last year I've read at least 15 books and keep looking for more to read....sucking them down again the way I used to except now the books are on my Kindle. I love reading again and am enjoying every damn minute!

Congratulations! It's wonderful when we recover a part of us we thought we had lost!

BS Me 63
WS Him 64
Married 35
Together 41
DD 11/16/09
I can dwell in the negative or seek the road is lonely...the other teeming with life.

Posts: 1861 | Registered: Mar 2010
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Default  Posted: 6:06 AM, April 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I can relate.
It is amazing what stress and anxiety does to us.
It took about 2 yrs post d-day until I could stay focused on a book.

It was a milestone for me.

Yayy! Mrs. Doubtfire!

Me- BS
Him- WH
Long term marriage
D-day- Jan. 2007
5 yr. LTA

Posts: 3174 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: NJ
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Default  Posted: 6:39 AM, April 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow! So concentration and focus are a normal casualty? I thought it was just me. Thanks everyone for chiming in, I'm glad to know its not just me.

BW, R last 4 years of marriage out of 15... FINALLY, HAPPILY DIVORCING!

We are in R.

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Default  Posted: 6:46 AM, April 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was the same way as you, MrsDoubtfire.

I am glad you were able to get back to reading, it is a milestone.

BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson

Posts: 13386 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
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Cool  Posted: 7:23 AM, April 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I could not read for quite some time. Now I can. It took me almost 3 years to be able to concentrate. Funny what these selfish nasty people can do to us. This last few weeks I have been able to read 4 books.

Me BS, in a better place then before,
Him FWS ex jackass, trying to be the best husband in the world
We are recovered.....almost!
Dday July 2010
Married 45 years at DD..50 years Aug 2013, now almost 53 years!

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