I had a severe moment of weakness last night. I hadn't responded to his contact but I buckled and said that I wasn't ignoring him, I just felt sad that that I hoped we could be friends at some point! This is the first contact I had made after we had 'agreed' to 'try again'. WHYYYYY? There was a bit of chit chat, then he said that he was so sorry for how he had treated me and the way he was with me and that if I needed anything at all then to ring, text or anything as he was always there.
Of course hearing this I got upset. I said the same goes for you and left it.
Since then, he hasn't left me alone! Liking all statuses on FB, messaging me and talking in a much different way to how he did before I messaged him basically letting him know it was over and that I wouldn't be trying again, using the words i hope we can be friends at some point. His contact when 'he had me' was always pretty superficial, like he couldn't be bothered, but now he's totally changed tact. It's EXACTLY what he did last time I broke it off with him and the time before.
Sadly at this point, I started wondering if we could indeed sort things out.
But thankfully something happened and I managed to gather some info. I was talking to a friend of his on Facebook who he isn't that close with. He mentioned him and I said it's a sore subject at the moment. He said, why? did he send you a picture of his penis? I asked why and probed him a bit and he said that he had in fact sent a picture of his penis to his friend's (mutual friend of theirs) girlfriend. He said he didn't believe he had done it at first until she showed him the picture on her phone. I was gobsmacked and couldn't believe it. It obviously happened in the time we were together, but that aside, who in their right mind would send a picture like that to a mates gf.
I felt a HUGE relief when he told me this. Even happy, well ish. So if he was sending them to her, who else was he sending them to? What else was he actually up to that I have no clue about?
I'm DISGUSTED. I felt guilty for ignoring him and even now, I feel guilty for leaving him. I feel sorry for him because he must really have something seriously wrong with him.
Aside from that. I found his ex on facebook. He told me that she had done all these sexual things that he wanted to do, but had cheated in the end on him and went of with the other man.
No he didn't exactly paint the best picture of her. But I have to say, she looks very normal, a nice person, and pretty innocent like myself so I guess this is the type he goes for. I saw pics of them when they first got together at a wedding and she looks pretty miserable. His other friend also told me that he met her twice and that she was really nice, shy and quiet.
Evil Ex told me that their relationship and the one before that had went the same way ours did. I wonder why? He is the only common denominator in ALL of them. I wouldn't mind betting that he treated them the same way and then they left. He also lied about how long they were together. He said 4 years, they were together about 1.5 if that.
Oh how I have been fooled. Needless to say she and he are not friends on facebook. I would love to message her and ask her some things but I am not sure if that would be a good idea.
[This message edited by HURTAGAIN1981 at 6:22 AM, April 26th (Friday)]