Maybe one good approach is to ask yourself how you feel and what you think about your relationship as you go along. Also, trust your senses.
And trust yourself - you're a human being, and human beings know how to have good relationships, after all.
Remember - life is a work in progress. A 'good relationship' may not be a 'there' - it could be just a relationship that is good enough to start and keeps getting better.
None of us really knows what's normal. We only know our own experience.
ETA: Really, is 'normal' important? I think many of us in R - and you seem to be one of them, chicho - are aiming to make our relationships full partnerships, which I think will make them much closer and more supportive (without suffocating each other) than most - which makes them 'abnormal'.
T/J - I recently skimmed an article that seemed to say our happiness with our sex lives depended on us doing as much as we thought others did. (I guess that means 72 times a week isn't enough if you think the average is 80, but no sex after 50 can be satisfying if you think that's normal.)
[This message edited by sisoon at 7:41 AM, April 26th (Friday)]