Sorry to hear your struggles.
Unfortunately, your gut is probably right. Maybe not with everything you listed, but at least some of them. If you can't get him to be truthful with you, to the point you feel that he is not TTing and you know everything, then you may need to take some time to reevaluate what you're doing. He should be open and honest with you, even without you asking.
Have you checked out the 180 in the Healing Library? Might be a useful tool for you to implement while you continue to work on healing yourself, especially if he seems unwilling to open up and be totally honest about what actually happened (or what is currently happening).