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HurtButHopeful? posted 4/26/2013 19:22 PM

Am I triggering because my H told me he went to the country courthouse to get D papers today? I found out about his A almost 4 years ago because he asked me for a D (to M her...but he hadn't told me about her yet.)

If he was dedicated to R, it sure isn't sounding like it...and only a month ago he told me: I'm not going anywhere, you complete me, I'm 1/2 a person without you.

I didn't know if I could believe him at the time. I guess I wasn't a complete idiot for not swooning at his words, but deciding time would tell if they were true.

My heart is breaking, again.

confused615 posted 4/26/2013 21:10 PM

(((((HurtButHopeful))))

You are not the idiot here.

Im so sorry.

Theradin posted 4/27/2013 10:13 AM

So sorry for your situation.

You did nothing wrong. This is 100% HIM. Try to be strong during this very difficult time.

PinkJeepLady posted 4/27/2013 10:19 AM

Please know that human beings in general are "hopeful", it's our nature. We all go to bed hoping that the sun will rise in the morning and we will have a better day than the one before. You are very normal in being a hopeful, trusting person!
I don't like when people play games with filing for divorce. I used to work with a guy who kept them filled out in his desk and then everytime he had a fight with his W, out them came to threaten her, what a joke!
Why threaten or hide it? If he is messing with you maybe you should offer to file them yourself, see what that does?
This whole thing really isn't about a stack of papers is it? We all just want to know where we stand in the relationship, are we together or aren't we? Is he committed to R and threatening D? Doesn't seem possible. There is a whole lot more to D than a bunch of papers, hope he realizes that.
I am sad for you. I am finding out this roller coaster ride is very confusing, sounds like you too.
I hope you can find a moment of peace this weekend! Hang on to what you know is true!
Take care,

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