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HelpMe123 (original poster member #39044) posted at 4:28 AM on Saturday, April 27th, 2013
I have never been away from my 9 year old son for the entire night. WS refused to watch our son at home, forcing him to spen the weekend across the street at WS's dads house:( I called my son to say good night and he cried and begged me to "let me (him) come home". There was nothing I could do. I worked until 10:30 tonight and work 10:30-10:30 both tomorrow and Sunday. I now need the $ so work is a big deal now when 2 weeks ago it was just spending money....now I can't sleep. My poor baby is suffering. He can see his home from the window but isn't allowed to go there. Why can't WS see what this does to our son
Me BS 37
Him 47
OW 32
Together 12 years
D-Day was told it was EA 4/11/2013 found out it was PA 4/21/2013 :( I am broken
1 son (9)
3 kids from previous (19,17,16)
His kids from previous 2 (17, 15)
Chrysalis123 ( member #27148) posted at 2:28 PM on Saturday, April 27th, 2013
Because they are inherently selfish people. In order to do what he wants your WS has to believe that the kids will be just fine, heck everyone will be just fine.
I am sorry you and your son are suffering. I remember sobbing and sobbing the first times my kids were forced away from me due to WS.
What can you do to build the confidence and strength in your little boy, so he can be OK away from you for those days? The reality is you have to work..
Can if be a good thing he develops the ability to separate and then reunite with you with ease? What are things he can take to help relax him? What are things he can do to entertain himself?
I remember when I had my second child, the first one hated it (at 20 months old) when I had to nurse the new baby as she wanted all my attention.
So, I got a backpack and filled it with novel things and that backpack only came out when baby was being nursed. This helped her make the separation.
((hugs))
Someone I once loved gave me/ a box full of darkness/ It took me years to understand/ That this, too, was a gift. - Mary Oliver
Just for the record darling, not all positive changes feel positive in the beginning -S C Lourie
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