So should I go NC and let my dad handle visitations for now? Or would i look stronger going myself? I feel like I might want NC. It would help me detach from everything. XWBF wants me there though. I don't know why, I made him miserable remember?
Not sure what to do.
Mrs. Robinson- 41, S but still M
"You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think." - Christopher Robin
I'm sure your ex does want you there, and on some level, you may want to see him too. (It's as common as salt, this need to see the other party).
But why not give yourself some time to focus on you?
If your comfortable with your Dad handling things, why not relax, maybe do something you used to enjoy?
[This message edited by Safeguard at 12:55 AM, April 27th (Saturday)]
Me kind of wanting to see him makes sense... but he doesn't want to reconcile, and made horrible implications about me, and how unhappy I made him. Given all of that, wouldn't being around me make him more miserable?
Often human emotions Aren't very logical. That's why it's so important that we rule our emotions, and not vice versa.
Emotionally immature people get off on the drama triangle. XWBF seem to enjoy, seeing how much he can toy with your life, and you still care. He must feel real special.
Imagine how his ego would deflate, if you moved on without so much as a backwards glance.
[This message edited by Safeguard at 5:03 AM, April 27th (Saturday)]
"If only I can fight just a little longer, I know it's gonna make me stronger" Jamie Grace-Holding on.
PS - your dad is AWESOME for supporting you this way - what a great support!!!
Today DS is going to the local nature center with XWBF and his older brother and his wife and hopefully DS's sister. My dad is dropping off and picking up. I regard the brother and wife as responsible adults so I am okay with this. I have specified that OW (aka Mrs. Robinson) is not allowed around the kids. After the way she yelled at DD's mom, no way.
So hopefully this all goes well.
[This message edited by Safeguard at 9:59 PM, April 27th (Saturday)]
I'm grateful that my son has a great role model in my dad, so he has someone to look up to other than his POS cheating father.
The visit went well. DS's uncle posted pics on facebook. XWBF looks annoyed in all of them like he doesn't want to be there. The kids are smiling though :)