I've survived 2 weddings since DDay. The first was an uncomfortable roller coaster that I was not prepared for about 6 months out It didn't help that the intimate ceremony expounded on unity of the marriage and the wants of each partner falling away to be replaced by the needs of new one, etc. The readings and the officiant seemed to go of the way to
highlight specific failures in our marriage and reiterate theimportance of even avoiding opposite sex friends. It felt like an assault!
We sat in the car after and I remember saying " shit, that was harder than I ever could have imagined." stupidly, we thought the super party couple's reception would be relaxing. It wasn't and our song from our first dance was played before we could leave.
I pretty much cried off and on the whole time, but at the time I had been looking forward to going. The couple was such good friends we couldn't not go and to this day they don't know about our problems-only my sister,IC and Mc know. The entire thing was ackward and uncomfortable but it did lead to some good in-depth talks with WH...
Second wedding was the end of March 2013. The service lasted 15 minutes or less in a super crowded church with mostly just distracting music and didn't bother me in the least. My only thought was How the ceremony seemed to minimize the importance of marriage itself and then off for free booze at the swanky club. Our wedding song was played at the second wedding but WH and I weren't together. He went to the bathroom before it started then I escaped to the bathroom to get away from the music and by the time I came out again and he found me, song was over-fissure averted
After the October wedding fiasco, we skipped a Nov wedding. The two weddings we have gone to were ones that we couldnt blow off, but weddings have a whole new feel to me now and I no longer look forward to them and still can't listen to our wedding song. I am not sure I ever will. Also didn't celebrate wedding anniversary this year. This sh*t is hard!
[This message edited by manybrokenpieces at 10:54 PM, April 27th (Saturday)]