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Amazonia (original poster member #32810) posted at 3:36 PM on Saturday, April 27th, 2013
When I have to empty the vacuum bin after using the vacuum as my bug elimination system. 
...that's about it though. 
"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
Survivor3512 ( member #37946) posted at 3:42 PM on Saturday, April 27th, 2013
Lol! Pretty funny.
I'm sure I'll miss mine once I get a yard and have to mow it. :)
Me (BS)- 36
Divorced
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Just keep swimming, just keep swimming- Dorie
newnormal ( member #21925) posted at 3:47 PM on Saturday, April 27th, 2013
(Spits coffee laughing)
How poetic. This has so many ways it could be used as a joke.
BS 43 (me)
FWH 48
D-day 9/07
Dont retreat, reload.
"Pull that knife out of your back - and sever the fuel line to that bus you got thrown under" Bufffalo
hurtinky ( member #26152) posted at 4:46 PM on Saturday, April 27th, 2013
I miss having a husband when I have to lift something heavy. That's about it.
Me --> BS
D-Day 10-1988
D-Day 9-12-2005
S 9-13-2005
D 3-6-12
caregiver9000 ( member #28622) posted at 4:48 PM on Saturday, April 27th, 2013
My INSTANT thought at this title?
NEVER. So I thought about it some more....
Nope, going with NEVER.
Me: fortysomething, independent, happy,
XH "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
two kids, teens. Old enough I am truly NO CONTACT w/ NPD zebraduck
S 5/2010
D 12/2012
SBB ( member #35229) posted at 4:56 PM on Saturday, April 27th, 2013
I'd rather have a bath in the contents myself.
The ONLY thing I miss is waking up with a lump in my back. Embarrassing but true. Its the only think I'm wistful about. Although I have found its not too difficult to replace - if I can stand the 'complications'.
I guess we can tick off the first item on my list of 'must haves' of my ideal guy eh?
I'm a deep thinker, I am.
I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!
Sad in AZ ( member #24239) posted at 4:59 PM on Saturday, April 27th, 2013
Bah! I couldn't even say that; I was the vermin eliminator in our house--especially mice. He was deathly afraid. I'm talking about a man who weighed 270 lbs and stood 6'2". I walked into the room one day and he was standing on a chair--there was a mouse in the lovebird's cage (free-standing on the floor) I don't know who was yelling louder--the X or the bird! 
You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-63
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
SBB ( member #35229) posted at 5:09 PM on Saturday, April 27th, 2013
I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!
tesla ( member #34697) posted at 5:13 PM on Saturday, April 27th, 2013
I miss my husband when I have to scoop the dog poop.
It was the one thing he would do. I hate scooping dog shit.
"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear
GrievingMommy ( member #28127) posted at 6:37 PM on Saturday, April 27th, 2013
I hate being the one to kill the spiders/bugs now that it's just me and the kids.
One day the kids found a spider on the stairs. DS4 thought it was pretty cool....and I seriously considered having him kill it and put it in the garbage. I decided to suck it up and kill it myself. haha
Me - Now 36 y/o
WXH: Now 45 y/o and 18+ hrs away -NPD asshole now onto wife #3.
My sweeties: 5 yr old B/G twins. 90% custody (or more) since 14 months old.
D-Day 4/4/10 PA('s?) & EA's - D'd 7/11
TrustGone ( member #36654) posted at 6:41 PM on Saturday, April 27th, 2013
I missed XWH#1 because he could fix anything, not that he would mind you, but he had the know how to..
Got STBXWH#2 and he can't do anything that a normal man can do... Came from the city to live with me on my farm, so you can guess what a fiasco this has been. Damnit now I have to learn how to cut the grass again with that weird lawnmower we just had to have. I want a steering wheel, not two levers to try and control. Should be real interesting.
XWH#2-No longer my monkey Divorced 8/15, Now married to a wonderful man.
"A person is either an asset or a lesson"
"Changing who you are with does not change who you are"
Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 6:53 PM on Saturday, April 27th, 2013
The only thing I could NOT do after he left was back the camper up onto the pad on the side of the house.
After a several hours and few escapades in getting the camper situated. I found a neighbor to do it for me. 
That's it. all the yard work, I already knew how to do. All the home repairs, I figured out thanks to youtube. Electrical issues.. took care of them. Vehicles - I did those too. Well made the appts and took the car in.
Last year I sold the camper, this year I got rid of the van that towed the camper. The camper pad is quickly becoming my staging area for my gardening fetish.
Not missing him at all ... just his paycheck. 
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
Williesmom ( member #22870) posted at 7:57 PM on Saturday, April 27th, 2013
I miss having someone to hold down the couch while I go to work every day....
That's about it. Everything else, I call my brother or just write a check. So much less drama.
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
persevere ( member #31468) posted at 9:03 PM on Saturday, April 27th, 2013
As I recently told my vet, I miss that he would grind the dogs nails weekly, because I can't do it, and I have to take them in constantly. I also miss the poop scooping.
He wasn't much for house repair - we always called someone.
So, I guess that's it. 
DDay:2011
Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.
Snapdragon ( member #4286) posted at 10:06 PM on Saturday, April 27th, 2013
My ex did the dishes. It was kind of a zen thing for him. He loaded the dishwasher horribly, only removed enough to put in the next batch of dirty dishes, and never scrubbed the scrambled eggs off anything (so it went 20 rounds in the dishwasher).
I hate doing dishes. HATE. I miss having an empty sink at all times. Seriously. That is about it for what I miss. So sad, really.
Divorced - recovered and hoping to help.
"We're not broken, just bent, and we can learn to love again" ~Pink
Amazonia (original poster member #32810) posted at 11:02 PM on Saturday, April 27th, 2013
I don't miss having MY (ex) husband.... just anyone who I could make empty the bug bin would do, really.
"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
PhoenixRisen ( member #35912) posted at 11:07 PM on Saturday, April 27th, 2013
I miss having a husband when I have to....
um....
wait a minute....
got it!
filing taxes! don't you get more deductions if you are married??
CharlieFoxtrot ( member #38010) posted at 1:34 PM on Sunday, April 28th, 2013
Good grief, I don't think he ever did a darn thing I could miss... I just have one less person's clothing and dishes to deal with!!
Weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning.
LadyQ ( member #32847) posted at 1:46 PM on Sunday, April 28th, 2013
I'm with Charlie Foxtrot on this one. I'm finding it hard to miss anything. He was deployed a lot and even when he was home, he was not very involved. I'd have to say he spends more time with the kids on his eow now than he ever did. And my momma raised me not to "need" a man. I even change my own oil!
Tune out the noise of what others tell you about who you are and work it out for yourself...
notmeanymore ( member #9772) posted at 2:02 PM on Sunday, April 28th, 2013
I'd have to go with -when lifting something heavy. But that's it.
I did the housekeeping, yard work when he "couldn't get to it", plumbing, catch n' release of bugs (I'm spider friendly), raising of kids. All of it. Now I just have one less big messy child to watch after.
"Put the cuckoo back in the clock baby" - Four Brothers
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