I passed the 5 yr mark and still working on my issues that were blown up because of the infidelity.
I agree with you, the after shocks takes a long time to lessen but I'm finding the damage with my own issues are just as difficult and takes a long time to work through.
No fast path out of this, is there ?
I don't miss him but it still hurts on some level.
For me most of the hurt was from the broken dreams/plans and rejection.
Hugs and you are still working through the shitty path we were put on.